(Closed) Would you be a stay at home WIFE not mom…if you could?

posted 11 years ago in Married Life
Post # 21
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I don’t think it would be boring and I deff don’t think that being a Stay-At-Home Wife = lazy. My days off (few and far between…) are filled with cleaning/cooking/errands, etc. At the end of the day, I still don’t get everything done!! A good friend of mine is a Stay-At-Home Wife and she is deff not lazy. She does a lot of work, volunteers, etc. Personally, I would love it! I hate that the apt is always a disaster and that we don’t eat dinner til 8pm.

Fiance has also hinted that he would like this too. On my days off, he loves coming home to a clean apartment and dinner on the table. Ah, if only we could afford it!! 🙂

Post # 25
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@superplannerbee: I couldn’t be a full time stay at home wife. I would be so bored. Without kids, it’s like what’s the point? What are you doing all day? Cooking, cleaning, organizing? Hell, I do that stuff and work 40 hours a week. Fiance has a meal waiting for him when he gets off work. He doesn’t have to run errands. I don’t need a full day to get it done. My house is cleaner than those houses you see in magazines. My OCD/panic disorder may have something to do with it but other than that I don’t see the point. Gas is too expensive to just drive around town having adventures. The only benefit I could see is I would have time to go to a gym that’s open during the day.

I would be happy with going to part time and being home the other half of the time. But 100% Nope. I couldn’t 100% depend on my Fiance for income. I’d feel like I was underage asking my dad for an allowance to go get my nails done or something.

Post # 38
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Yes, but I would rather be a stay at home mom. I can’t wait to have kids!! The only thing stopping us is finances, so if we had the money so that I could stay home, we would be starting a family immediately. 

Post # 39
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Most definitely would.  I’d fill my time in with cooking, cleaning, and various hobbies.  Eventually children would come into the picture though.  

Post # 40
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I wouldn’t really. I’m having a hard time even accepting staying at home part-time when the baby is born. I like the work day and the set hours – although it would be nice to have time to do things around the house when needed.

Post # 41
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

So interesting that you posted this b/c my husband and I had a discussion about this topic recently!

My husband works for a successful commodity trading company, and is blossiming very well in this company/ in this business. Their corporate HQ is in Switzerland, so my husband and I decided to plan a trip to Paris & Swiss over NYE and I would stay for a week & then come back and work. Well he was telling his CFO about the trip and he said “oh she works?” my husband joked that if they wanted to pay him more then maybe I wouldn’t work 🙂

Then when we get to Swiss, my husband had to go into the office for a min & I went with him, he was casually talking to one of the shareholders and said “my wife is leaving on monday to go back home, b/c she has to go to work.” and the same response “oh she works?!”

We thought this was crazy! These people know we don’t have kids, and my husband isn’t rolling in the dough, but more so then the money, it seems like this is the lifestyle of wives of these exes at the company. For fun my husband and I started thinking about just the ppl in his office and anyone who is a director level or above, none of their wives work! kids or not!

Even though we are not in a position right now for me not to work, I told my husband I could never imagine not working. Now I’m not going to lie, a nice month or two hiatus every year would be awesome. But, I went to school for a reason, and although I am in the midst of completely changing my career direction, I have career goals for myself that I want to fullfill. I just couldn’t imagine not working all year, year after year, when you have no kids!

Post # 42
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5839 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

No, I like my job/career and I’d prob be lazy as h*ll if I stayed home.

Post # 43
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767 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I would LOVE LOVE LOVE to. I recently found a job after 6 months of being unemployed and it’s hard getting back to working. I don’t know how people get everything done with working full time. My Fiance and I agreed that after we pay off our school loans I can scale back on work (do part time or seasonal work). I have a Masters, but I always intended to stay home with kids as well. I am just not career minded (maybe I shouldn’t have gotten the Masters, in retrospect)

Post # 44
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

No way.  I like working and earning my own money, it gives me some thing constant to do and a sense of purpose.. No offense to those who do it but its just not for me

 

 

 

 

Post # 45
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

HECK NO! I stay home with our 16 month old and even that gets tedious and boring sometimes and she gives me PLENTY to do. I can’t imagine having a degree and being fully capable of holding down a job but just staying home all day. I feel like I contribute to the household now because I take care of our daughter instead of having a regular job, but if I didn’t have a job OR a kid and just stayed home all day “wifing,” I really don’t think I’d feel like a contributing member of the family. That’s just me though; I prefer to be busy and I enjoy the satisfaction of doing a job I like and doing it well. I miss work sometimes and can’t wait to eventually go back when our daughter is older.

Post # 46
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I’m essentially doing this now while looking for a job. I always thought I would love to not have to go to work, but I have found out that 3 weeks is about my limit. I need the mental stimulation of my career or I go nuts.

Post # 47
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

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@PinkBubbleGum: ITA!! I honestly should not have gone back for the master’s.. At the time I didn’t really know what I wanted to do so I just kept going to school.. Bad idea. If I could be a Stay-At-Home Wife now I would, but I deff plan on being a Stay-At-Home Mom.. I just hope to have my loans paid off before we have kids.

Post # 48
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Honey bee

If we had kids then yes, definetly. I would love to stay home and raise them like my mom was able to (that will never happen though, we need both incomes). Without kids though? I don’t know. Some days I wake up-like today when its snowing and gross out-and I would much rather stay home and clean, get some laundry done, and cook a nice dinner and take care of the house. But I don’t know if I could do it everyday, indefinetly. I like having a schedule, I like being challenged and coming home at the end of the day and feeling like I accomplished something. I would LOVE a month or 2 month vacation though to recharge 🙂

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