(Closed) Would you be a stay at home WIFE not mom…if you could?

posted 11 years ago in Married Life
Post # 167
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I would love to be a Stay-At-Home Mom, but I’m not sure I would find enough to do as a Stay-At-Home Wife to keep me busy and mentally stimulated. Sometimes I get that O.o look from people when I say that we hope to pay off our student loans quickly so that one of us can be home with our kids (or find a way to swing part time for both of us, etc). With the cost of daycare, we figured it makes just as much sense to work it out that one of us is there with them instead. Having some type of part-time legal job may be difficult to line up, but it’s my dream, at least until my (future) children are school-age. 

Post # 168
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608 posts
Busy bee

I think that there are so many things to do as community projects as well as household things that you’d never be bored, and the idea that not being paid makes you lazy… is an invalid way of thinking.  I really hate the concept that people judge others on how they are using their educations by how much money they collect or if they are paid for their work.  I am a substitute teacher and have found myself in an unusual position of being employed but having more “at home time” than the average instructor.  That being said, I’m also on call throughout the school year.  The days I’m home, I am constantly finding things that need to be completed or activities that I can volunteer my time and talents for…  I have a huge pile of crafting projects to complete, and I find that the skills that I would really like to learn are skills that were never taught in the classroom, but would be very useful to life…

Post # 169
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I’ve been a stay at home fiance most of the time we’ve been engaged but not really by choice. I’m living in Australia and my visa is to sub teach so when I can work I do but its pretty boring to stay home all day, I don’t recommend it unless you have friends who also stay at home.

Post # 170
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

i couldnt be a Stay-At-Home Wife – i cannot not work, its not my nature

my hubby on the other hand will gladly be a SAHH – he’s already working a 4 day week and scaling his hours down

 

 

Post # 171
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2011 - Calgary Opera Centre

A friend introduced me to the term ‘LOLA’ = Lady of Leisure and Activity. I think I could totally do it, were the money situation right!

What would I do? Well, ideally we’d have just bought our first house, so I could spend the days tending the garden, painting rooms, arranging furniture perfectly, cooking delicious dinners and having the time to clean up after, going to yoga, knitting for a bit, crafting things… I would probably have an Etsy store as an excuse to craft things, not as a stable source of income….

I totally don’t think I’d get bored! LOLA-ing here, in our rented condo that is so full of our stuff and has no garden… not so fun, but I’d just craft more than in the example above.

Is the opposite of a LOLA a MOLA? Man of Leisure and Activity? Mr CB has had most of January off due to his work schedule, he’s being going through our copy of Vij’s (awesome curry cookbook) and making delicious curries every night for the past little while.

Post # 172
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Bumble bee

 I couldn’t do it I would be bored in the house all day.  When I have breaks during school and stay in the house most of the time I go stir crazy.  I’m going to school to get a job I love so I would want to work.  I look forward to the mental stimulation not to mention the money it would provide.

Post # 173
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I’ve gone from full-time to part-time (sort of, I still pick up shifts to try to keep full time hours) at work, and told Fiance that if I do not pick up enough hours, I will take on extra chores.

If I did not work at all…I mean, how ideal!  Haha.  If we had the money and could pull it off, I would definitely throw myself into hobbies that I’ve wanted to try and haven’t had the time/money to.  But just sit around and have lunch dates?  Mmmm I would be so bored.

Post # 174
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

At one point, I thought that staying at home would be ideal. I worked part time and went to school and didn’t have much free time at all. I never saw my room mate. Then, I bought my own place where I currently live and haven’t been able to find a job since. I THOUGHT I was going to get one. They called me in for training, but told me they didn’t need me anymore and that was that. Point is, I hate being at home. I’m out of school this semester. I don’t have a job and I’m dying. My house is super clean and I have time to bake and things like that, but it’s driving me nuts.

In reality, FH and I could live on just his income, but I don’t intend to go stay at home.

Post # 175
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554 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

I would prefer to work than do that.  However once we have children I plan to stay at home and am looking forward to that day!

Post # 177
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3423 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

No that’s my life half the time – it sucks.  Once in a while to stay at home is awesome but every day. blah.

Post # 178
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2018 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

absolutely not! i would be bored out of my mind.

Post # 179
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I’d LOVE to not work and have kids! That’s living the dream for me…

Seriously though I would love to stay home for the benefit of my kids when I have them. At least for the first 5 years.

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