(Closed) Would you be a stay at home WIFE not mom…if you could?

posted 11 years ago in Married Life
Post # 32
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I am a housewife without children (my husband and I are working on that). I hate it when people call me “lazy” when they hear about it. I constantly clean, cook, bake, and run errands so that my husband doesn’t have to worry about anything when he comes home. There hasn’t been a day that I haven’t had a hot dinner on the table or lunch when my husband comes home from work. We both feel it’s a very fair trade off and he prefers it this way. We both have traditional views on what the roles in a marriage should be and I’m grateful that we’re well off enough to have it this way.When I do have free time I read or catch up with my family. I’m a 19 year old Martha Stewart without the snarkiness.

I’m nothing like my sister in-law that stayed home when she first got married and didn’t do anything. Her apartment would be covered in everything you could think of, we didn’t even know if they had carpet or wood. She didn’t clean AT ALL (maybe that’s why it stunk) and never cooked since she didn’t know how to. She’s pretty much the perfect example of what I don’t want to be. So I guess I kind of understand why people make blanket statements about housewives being lazy, but she’s the only person that I knonw that acted like that.

Post # 33
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1958 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

In theory, I would love to do this, just because my passions are crafts, cooking, decorating…and I could do all of those all the time if I didn’t have to work.  In reality, I think I’d go nuts and all those things wouldn’t be my passions anymore because I’d have all the time in the world to do them and would soon grow tired of them…if that makes sense. lol

Post # 34
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

I was a stay at home wife for a few months a couple years ago.  It was fine; not great, but fine.  I still had work to do, it was just more of a flexible schedule than a regular job.  I didn’t have nearly as much free time as I thought I would!

Post # 35
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I think I could be a stay at home wife, but not a stay at home mom (at least not indefinitely).  My girlfriend is a stay at home mom with two kids and is the most stressed person I know.  She loves her kids, but it is definitely not easy.  It’s not like she is hanging out doing whatever she wants during the day.  At work, you at least get some time with other adults, and usually some time to yourself and intellectual stimulation.  If I could be a stay at home wife though, I’d read a lot of books, volunteer, get a puppy.  I actually left my job 10 weeks ago.. I thought I would be a lot more bored than I am!

Post # 36
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

I am a stay at home wife, mainly for health reasons. I have my masters, I had a job, and it was killing me. I was engaged to my husband at the time, and he encouraged me to quit as my health is more important. We had a goal of being pregnant soon, so I decided not to try to get another job. If I wasn’t pregnant or trying, I would have looked for a less stressfull job.

I love being a stay at home wife! When I worked, there was no time to do normal things like clean and make dinner. Now I can do those things and my husband can just relax when he comes home from a hard days work.

Post # 38
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Yes, but I would rather be a stay at home mom. I can’t wait to have kids!! The only thing stopping us is finances, so if we had the money so that I could stay home, we would be starting a family immediately. 

Post # 39
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Most definitely would.  I’d fill my time in with cooking, cleaning, and various hobbies.  Eventually children would come into the picture though.  

Post # 40
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1676 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I wouldn’t really. I’m having a hard time even accepting staying at home part-time when the baby is born. I like the work day and the set hours – although it would be nice to have time to do things around the house when needed.

Post # 41
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

So interesting that you posted this b/c my husband and I had a discussion about this topic recently!

My husband works for a successful commodity trading company, and is blossiming very well in this company/ in this business. Their corporate HQ is in Switzerland, so my husband and I decided to plan a trip to Paris & Swiss over NYE and I would stay for a week & then come back and work. Well he was telling his CFO about the trip and he said “oh she works?” my husband joked that if they wanted to pay him more then maybe I wouldn’t work 🙂

Then when we get to Swiss, my husband had to go into the office for a min & I went with him, he was casually talking to one of the shareholders and said “my wife is leaving on monday to go back home, b/c she has to go to work.” and the same response “oh she works?!”

We thought this was crazy! These people know we don’t have kids, and my husband isn’t rolling in the dough, but more so then the money, it seems like this is the lifestyle of wives of these exes at the company. For fun my husband and I started thinking about just the ppl in his office and anyone who is a director level or above, none of their wives work! kids or not!

Even though we are not in a position right now for me not to work, I told my husband I could never imagine not working. Now I’m not going to lie, a nice month or two hiatus every year would be awesome. But, I went to school for a reason, and although I am in the midst of completely changing my career direction, I have career goals for myself that I want to fullfill. I just couldn’t imagine not working all year, year after year, when you have no kids!

Post # 42
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3572 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

No, I like my job/career and I’d prob be lazy as h*ll if I stayed home.

Post # 43
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448 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I would LOVE LOVE LOVE to. I recently found a job after 6 months of being unemployed and it’s hard getting back to working. I don’t know how people get everything done with working full time. My Fiance and I agreed that after we pay off our school loans I can scale back on work (do part time or seasonal work). I have a Masters, but I always intended to stay home with kids as well. I am just not career minded (maybe I shouldn’t have gotten the Masters, in retrospect)

Post # 44
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

No way.  I like working and earning my own money, it gives me some thing constant to do and a sense of purpose.. No offense to those who do it but its just not for me

 

 

 

 

Post # 45
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

HECK NO! I stay home with our 16 month old and even that gets tedious and boring sometimes and she gives me PLENTY to do. I can’t imagine having a degree and being fully capable of holding down a job but just staying home all day. I feel like I contribute to the household now because I take care of our daughter instead of having a regular job, but if I didn’t have a job OR a kid and just stayed home all day “wifing,” I really don’t think I’d feel like a contributing member of the family. That’s just me though; I prefer to be busy and I enjoy the satisfaction of doing a job I like and doing it well. I miss work sometimes and can’t wait to eventually go back when our daughter is older.

Post # 46
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I’m essentially doing this now while looking for a job. I always thought I would love to not have to go to work, but I have found out that 3 weeks is about my limit. I need the mental stimulation of my career or I go nuts.

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