(Closed) Would you be a stay at home WIFE not mom…if you could?

posted 11 years ago in Married Life
Post # 62
289 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

YES! I would love to!

Post # 63
3218 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I honestly don’t think I would… I’d get bored! I mean work sucks for the most part but it *does* give me something to do, my own money to spend (guilt free) and I get to have a life outside the home that doesn’t include the finace which in IMO is a very important thing to have.

Post # 64
5259 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

I am busy bee, continually frustrated, motivated, and trying to make things better.  That being said, I like utilizing my skills and I could never not be doing something with them.  That’s basically why I make art.  I guess I feel I have too much to contribute to let it go by the wayside.  However, it would be fantastic to be able to have enough $ to be able to just work for myself.  I am basically doing this now, but money is uncomfortably tight, so I am continually looking and working on moving forward.  In a way, not having a lot of $ keeps me motivated to use my skills and talents.

Also, I need a connection to the community and to be continually having little successes.  That is another reason why art is right for me.  But I have so much motivation, I hope to do as much as I can with it, whatever direction it will go- whether working at an agency or for myself.

For the most part- I love it.  DH and I take care of each other in different ways.  He works, I handle everything else.  We “break up the stress,” so to say.  But I do hope to have a successful business.

Post # 65
1830 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

I love my job- I would rather be at work than anywhere else most of the time. I think Fiance would like to stay at home. If we ever get there financially I would love to let him.

Post # 66
383 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@superplannerbee: Sadly, where I live, just cutting back on material things and taking a part time job is not an option. The cost of living is just too high here. I don’t buy much in way of materialistic things, just some yarn for my knitting and donations to the local animal shelter, but the NY Metro area is costly and usually requires both people to work.

Working only part-time is a delicious idea, though. I don’t know if I could justify staying home, unless we had kids (and could afford it of course). Honestly? I would settle for working only 40 hours a week instead of 60. I would rather wash my floors instead of work! 

Post # 67
227 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I joke all the time about how I want to be a stay at home wife! I would totally volunteer ALL day everyday! Between Special Olympics, my church youth group, and other community projects I want to be involved in I would definitely be able to fill my time. And maybe even get some housework done…. since that rarely happens now haha

I truly think I would be happier if I didn’t have a “real” job and could just volunteer all the time… too bad the boy makes as little as I do. The joys of working with youth and children!

Post # 69
2385 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

When I’m really slow at work and bored to tears, this sounds like the best thing ever. When I’m busy and enjoying it (sometimes that happens ;)… it still sounds pretty awesome. 😉 In reality, I think I would love to be able to afford to work part-time, whether I’m taking care of kids at home or not. I enjoy my hobbies and having time to work out and take care of myself, and it’s hard to maintain my personal life while working 60-hour weeks! It’s hard to do it even while working 40-hour weeks. But I think I’d be bored silly if I didn’t work at all. I barely leave the house when I get a long weekend, sometimes, and I think that’d get old.

ETA: I wasn’t really considering the element of being dependent on my husband, just whether I’d enjoy a life where I didn’t have to go to work. 😉 Not being able to get by in the event of catastrophe would be reason enough to keep me working, even if I didn’t techincally have to. I didn’t go to law school to have someone else take care of me.

Post # 70
7039 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

Absolutely NOT. Couldn’t pay me to do it. I enjoy my independence and feeling like I contribute to more than my husband’s clean house.

Post # 71
8375 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Heck no. Honestly if we cut back, my husband could support me with his new job. But i don’t want to be supported. I work a full time job and I still manage to go to school, work out, and have a part time thing on the side. We also eat very well, it’s not like we have sandwiches for dinner =]. I don’t see how making food and cleaning is a full time job! I’d come to hate cooking if it was required of me. And it’s not like we don’t have time for each other. I would feel very frustrated if I couldn’t work in an environment that allows me to feel intelligent and challenged regularly. I’m honestly surprised at how many women would be content to cook and clean and run errands all day. I’m getting 1950’s flash backs with aprons and heels Tongue out.

Post # 72
254 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Hell no.  I’d be so bored – I was unemployed for 4 months in 2008 and it was horribly boring.  I can shop, cook, clean, and do the laundry with my full-time job.  Now with kids, it would be hard.  But without kids?  No way.  I think it’s a bad idea to be that dependent on ONE other person in case something happened (divorce, death, etc)

Post # 73
1261 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I have the best solution of all: I work from home. I make my own hours, if I need to go do something, I go do it. If I need to sleep in, I do it. If the bathroom needs cleaned at 2 pm, I do it. If I want to crank up my music and make myself a sandwich, I do it. At the same time, I have enough structure (which I TOTALLY NEED. Not want. NEED) to keep me getting my work done which equates to the making with the monies. It’s pretty cool.

I need to work, because I feel like I must make my own way, even though I totally get that my husband and I are a team, 100% committed to each other. I still feel the need to keep our household going and I don’t think I could do that as well if I had to go somewhere to work every day. His plan is to be a stay-at-home Dad someday when we have children, so I wonder how this is going to evolve!

Post # 74
748 posts
Busy bee

Uhhh YEA! I would love that. Stay at home with our dog all day? Sign me up!

You should see the path of destruction my FH leaves in our house. I truly is a full time job cleaning up after that man!

I really enjoy cleaning and cooking so I would love it. If both of us had full time jobs our house would look terrible and we’d never eat.

Although, I’d like being a stay at home MOM much much more.

Post # 75
2208 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Yeah, I’m a workaholic so I couldn’t stay home all day. Plus, I like my job.

Post # 76
524 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

If I didn’t have kids, I think I would be rather bored to be home all day all the time.  I guess, maybe, I would work part time at least. 


I’d love to be a Stay-At-Home Mom though someday!

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