Post # 1
I have HCM hypertrophy cardiomyopathy and LVH severe left ventricular hypertropy, which are genetic, from my understanding.
Mr. Porkchop had cancer at the age of 24, now in remission.
We have a mini Porkchop, precious healthy five year old and we would like to have more, our mini Porkchop really wants a brother or sister.
But……to me….I think it would be selfish of myself to try to conceive knowing that he or she has a 50/50 chance of having what I have
My doctor made a really good point, he said that nothing is missing in my life so I’m already set. He really recommends genetic testing if we decide to have another child.
Would you consider having a child, knowing that you have genetic condition?
Post # 3
Have you considered adoption? SO and I are both heavily considering this as our option, though we do want to try for at least one conceived child – he’s adopted himself and doesn’t know his medical history, while I have a pretty crappy set of genes I’m not positive I want to pass down.
I’d definitely say get the testing done if you do conceive – but hey, if one child is already healthy, chances are that a second would be as well. *hug* I know it’s so tough to weigh the options for things like this.
Post # 4
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
I would get the genetic testing done before deciding.
Post # 5
@Porkchop: it’s obviously a very personal choice to adopt, but i know that would be the direction i would take.
Post # 6
Depends on how much it affected my quality of life and how much medical intervention would be required long term. But, without knowing anythinkg about your condition, but from what you have said you have a fulfilling life, on balance I’d say yes.
Post # 8
I would just be happy with the blessing you have already. I really wouldn’t consider it personally. But it’s your decission and I wish you every happiness. *hug*
Post # 9
Wow I never thought about adopting, I definitely would consider that and that’s a whole new ballpark!
I just don’t want my child to have to take medications like I do and I have no control of that, regardless.
But if I considered every aspect I would have another one, because isn’t everything meant to be?
Thanks everyone for the input!!
Post # 10
@Soon2BD-CBee: Thanks!! I am totally already happy with our little blessing! I definitely need to keep on counting our blessings and not concern myself with the what if’s! 🙂
Post # 11
I don’t know enough about your condition (and am too lazy to look it up, ngl, haha) to know what your quality of life is with it. If you feel like you have a reduced quality of life and wouldn’t want to put a child through that, I would consider adoption (which is also a fantastic gift to both you and the child you give a loving home). If your condition is more of just a minor annoyance and wouldn’t drastically affect the life of a child who inherited it, then I don’t see a problem having a genetic child…
Post # 12
@BookishBelle: Good Point! Thanks!
Post # 13
I would highly consider adopting! The choice isnt have a child or not, it is have a child who is biologically yours or not. And to me, family means a lot more than shared gentics. You could use a donor egg and still carry and birth a child, adopt an infant, adopt a child from the foster system, adopt internAtionally, all sorts of options that allow for another person in your family but without some of the genetic risks you carry. Good luck with wbatever you choose!
Post # 14
I have a friend that went through something similar. She and her H wanted four kids, but after her second son was born, they found out both boys had a hereditary type of MD, only passed to males. She decided she didn’t want to have more kids, just in case future children might be male and had a high chance of not being born healthy.
Post # 15
Well, first I would do genetic testing and figure out the odds of the kidlets getting these conditions. If the odds were high, then I would either adopt or just not have kids.
Post # 16
@Porkchop: This is a very personal decision, but since you asked for feedback, here is mine. You already have one healthy baby and nothing says you won’t have a second or third healthy baby. Even people without genetic conditions can have babies who are born with medical issues. There are no guarantees either way – it’s always a risk (yes, I understand your risk is increased but it isn’t guaranteed as your healthy child proves).
Provided you are comfortable caring for a child who may have medical concerns, then I say: GO FOR IT! 🙂