(Closed) Would you abstain from having sex for the first 3 months of your pregnancy?

posted 5 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 32
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

i cannot believe a Dr gave you this advise. this is horrible advise. get a new dr.

Post # 33
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

MRS-K:  yes, it is normal to get a pap during pregnancy. I really think you need to get a new dr and one that will explain these things to you. Do you have a friend who has been through a pregnancy before? i also suggest the book: what to expect when you are expecting.

Post # 34
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

MRS-K:  I am! But Ive had MCs so am totally paranoid!!! It wasn’t docs advice btw!  Do whatever feels comfortable for you 🙂

Post # 35
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Your doc sounds pretty misinformed. There’s usually no reason to abstain from sex during pregnancy. If my doc legitimately thought I should I would but not just because I might blame myself if I miscarry. sex doesn’t cause miscarriages! Miscarriages that early on are pretty much because of genetic abnormalities completely out of your control. You need a new doctor.

Post # 36
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Yes you can and should get a pap. I had one done at 8 weeks pregnant. My baby is 8 months old and perfectly healthy!

Post # 37
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island

Sex is perfectly safe during pregnancy.  It’s also a lot easier and more fun in the first trimester before you get huge and uncomfortable.  So no, I would not (and have not) abstained from sex.

Post # 38
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

When I was pregnant with my son, my doctor told me that with my history of miscarriage, we need to abstain from sex basically until viability. We didn’t have sex at all in the first trimester but we DTD a few times after that. I have no idea if it made a difference but it’s the first pregnancy that I didn’t miscarry. I was also on progesterone supplements so I don’t know which (if either) of those things made the difference.

Post # 39
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Busy bee

I didn’t even know I was pregnant until I was almost out of the first trimester, so, no, I see no reason to abstain from sex that early on.

Post # 40
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

MRS-K: 

I did, not by my choice, I think my husband was worried something would happen… As a woman with a high sex drive it.was.hell.

Post # 41
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Definitely get a pap (this is standard practice and NOT harmful) but also get a new doctor. Your doctor sounds incompetent. 

Post # 42
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

There waas no medical reason to – but we definitely cut it back more because I slept pretty much anytime I was at home 🙂

Post # 43
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

MRS-K:  Oh I just couldn’t!! There is no way either one of us could wait. Our doctor said there was no medical concern unless there were high risk symptoms or previous pregnancy problems. She said to just be careful and do whatever is comfortable. She did mention that if done often the semen COULD soften the cervix tissue, but that had to be a lot to have any risk of miscarriage.

Post # 44
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I don’t think it’s a far stretch to say that sex during pregnancy “might” lead to miscarriages. Doctors advise having sex to bring on labour afterall. That doesn’t mean that everyone who has sex when pregnant is going to have a miscarriage but maybe some people are just more prone to it. I’d just watch for spotting and don’t get too crazy if you know what I mean… 🙂

Post # 45
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

MRS-K:  Never been pregnant, but nope. I sure would NOT. My cousin’s doctor told her specifically that there was no medical reason not to have sex, and that it was perfectly fine for her. I wonder why in the world your doctor would be of this opinion. I also have a friend who is a midwife at a hollistic birthing center who fully supports couples having sex early on (and even late into) because she says it keeps the mother happy and healthy, and therefore the baby happy and healthy. (She’s a midwife, but once she started at the birthing center or w/e she also got certified as a doula, so she’s really big on being there for the mother every step of the way.)

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