- 5 years ago
- Wedding: July 2013
I have about 6 different friends who got engaged over the holidays, and some of them have been asking me for tips/suggestions for their weddings, such as vendor suggestions, venue suggestions, budget suggestions, planning/timelines, etc. and I am more than happy to offer up what I learned during my planning time.
However, a friend that I was relatively close to in high school, but have become more “facebook” friends in our adult years (haven’t seen her in person in almost 6 years), had mentioned that she really loved my wedding dress back in July when I posted a few pictures, and that it was close to her dream dress. Well, fast forward to now, she’s getting married in May (she got engaged in November, so 6 month engagement so her time is limited) and she is struggling to find her dream dress. Well, she messages me, asking where I got my dress and what not, and we’re talking, and we have this conversation: (mind you our conversation had been going on before this, but I’m just including the important stuff.)
Me: I’m sure you’ll find your dream dress out there!
Her: Ha! Or I could just borrow your dress!
Her: I know right? It would be perfect!
Me: (thinking maybe she’s serious) haha, I already got it perserved though.
Her: I’ll pay to get it perserved again, and I promise I’ll take care of it! It would save me a ton in my budget to!
Me: (Didn’t reply for about 3 minutes, thinking)
Her: I’m serious! This would be so awesome! Please!
Me: Let me think about it, k?
Her: Okay! Let me know ASAP! You’re a life saver!
Ugh! No. I don’t want to lend someone else my wedding dress. I know it is totally impractical and that it would be nice if I let her borrow it, but something about me being the only one who has ever or will ever wear my wedding dress is special to me, and even though it’s in a box all nice and preserved and will likely never be worn again, I just don’t want to let someone else wear it. My dress was discontinued a few months after I purchased it, so unless my friend gets a replica or a pre-owned dress she wouldn’t be able to get it, so borrowing mine might be her only option for wearing this dress. I was considering telling her to do a Jasmine dress (they have a replica on their site for 1/2 of the original price) but I am not sure if they could get it in on time.
Plus, she would probably have to make a few alterations to the dress (my bust is larger than her’s and her hips and waist are slightly larger than mine) if she did borrow it, and I’m not comfortable with my dress being altered again. I know I am probably overreacting from it, but my dress has sentimental value to me, and I don’t want to share it. I know that is selfish of me, but it is just the way I feel.
I’m probably going to tell her no, and I’m afraid she’ll be upset with me… but it just isn’t something I am comfortable with. Other women might be, but I’m not. Maybe if she were my sister, but even then I would just have to see how I felt in that moment…
So… would you let someone borrow your wedding dress?