(Closed) Would you allow someone to borrow your wedding dress?

posted 7 years ago in Dress
  • poll: Would you allow someone to borrow your wedding dress?

    Yes - but only someone close to me.

    Yes - even if we weren't that close.

    No

    Maybe - but it would depend on certain things (explain).

  • Post # 32
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2014

    UM NO. Definitely not aha.

    Post # 33
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I don’t think so, and my dress hasn’t even been made yet, and I really doubt I’ll sell it.

     

    In your case, definitely not! Worst case scenario, you lose a Facebook friend, or two, if you also know her best friend who sides with her on principle or something like that. And your alteration concerns are very valid. If you want her to look beautiful on her wedding day, but preserve the integrity of your dress, it’s your duty to say no!

    Also, I would suggest she look into local tailors who can make her a dress inspired by yours. A lot of the time they can work faster than a company like Jasmine’s, and she can be involved in the process. I don’t know what her budget is or how complicated your dress is, but I’m getting a relatively complicated custom dress (with high quality fabric I get to choose myself to make sure it looks and feels right!) for about $2000, and I consider that reasonable for a dream dress.

    Post # 34
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I would consider it for very special circumstances, but definitely not in your case.

    Post # 35
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    10450 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2014

    Not a chance. 

    Post # 36
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    349 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    She didn’t even really ask you.. She just strongly hinted at it and made it weirdly uncomfortable :

    No way would I let someone I’m not close with borrow my dress.

    Are you even invited to her wedding?! Haha

    Post # 37
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    In this situation I wouldn’t. I would be so afraid of it getting ruined or not getting it back. I’ve been burned too many times loaning things out before and something that costs as much as a wedding dress would not leave my possession unless I was selling it.  If it was best friend and she really needed it then I would loan it to her in a heartbeat but she wouldn’t have to alter it and I know she would take care of it and give it back, I don’t think you could trust a FB friend like that, especially one who sounds like shes just trying to save some money.

    Post # 39
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    470 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    I’m honestly not sure if I’d ever let anyone borrow my dress. In your situation, I would say HECK NO! It’s your dress, you’re allowed to be as sentimental as you want about it! And especially since you two are close at all. Just awkward!

    Post # 40
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2013

    No way. Unless she was dying of some tragic disease and her last wish was to borrow my dress for her ceremony. Then maybe.

    Maggie has a line of dresses done in 6 weeks or less, DB’s dresses arrive in 12 weeks or less… SHe has other options!

    Post # 41
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

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    @MeghanFly:  Can I just say, keeping your dress forever is fine! I’ve kept mine for 20+ years and still have it. (And there’s no chance of anyone else wanting it now. Besides the style, both my daughters are quite a bit taller than me!)

    Post # 42
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    No way!

    Post # 43
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    480 posts
    Helper bee

    If they were the same size and we were super close, I’d have no problem with it. My aunt borrowed my mom’s dress. I would deff have a “you break it, you buy it” clause though. 😛

    But I would certainly not be okay with allowing it to be altered to fit someone else. No, it’s my dress, it’s supposed to be made to fit me…

    Post # 44
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I donated my dress to a thrift shop. No emotional attachment to it – it’s just a dress. If someone had wanted to borrow it before I donated it, certainly. 

    Post # 45
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2015

    I plan to donate my dress to charity after the wedding.  She could buy it from there!  I’m not overly sentimental when it comes to clothing, so I think it would be weird to get attached to the dress.  I donated all of my prom/formal dresses too. I can promise that my future daughters (if any) will not want to wear my dress.  It is going to scream this decade.  

    Post # 46
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    I’m never going to wear it again and chances are that my daughter(s) (if we have any) won’t want to wear it so I would sell it to her.

    But given your feelings, no….you shouldn’t.  You’re clearly not ok with the idea and nobody says you have to be.

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