(Closed) Would you allow someone to borrow your wedding dress?

posted 6 years ago in Dress
  • poll: Would you allow someone to borrow your wedding dress?

    Yes - but only someone close to me.

    Yes - even if we weren't that close.


    Maybe - but it would depend on certain things (explain).

  • Post # 92
    9465 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2013

    if i offered (not if they asked).

    if they returned it unharmed and cleaned. i had my dress preserved, so they would have to pay to have to preserved again.

    no alterations done to it.


    Post # 93
    652 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I definitely would, but the dress was not my number one most important thing. I bought my dress preowned (sample from a bridal salon- looks like it was never tried on), and lucked out that it was awesome. 

    I jokingly told my friend who was married in 2010 that if I hadn’t found my dress, I might have asked to borrow hers. She told me she was honored and she would have been happy to have me wear it… that was just the sweetest, so it’s definitely coloring my opinion of the story. 

    For me, being the only person to wear my dress was not essential, so I would not hesitate to lend/donate/sell it out. As long as they wanted to borrow it AFTER my own wedding!

    Also, if it was like FI’s ex, and she has a smokin body… maybe not!!!

    Post # 94
    2457 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012


    Post # 95
    4943 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    @MeghanFly:  Not if I was intending on keeping it. If I was going to sell/donate it, I probably would.

    Post # 96
    1828 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2014

    I’m not sentimental and plan on selling my dresses after the wedding, so while I would not let her “borrow” the dress, I would sell it to her for 50% of what I paid. I think that is the going rate for most wedding dresses, and she could choose to take it or leave it. If it was a close friend I would probably cut them an even better deal if they were truly in love with it.

    Post # 97
    44 posts
    • Wedding: August 2014

    Absolutely no way…it’s clear this girl had one intention when she started talking to you!!! I would call her out on it too, in my opinion it’s rude. 

    Post # 99
    868 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    @MeghanFly:  NOPE! Only person I would allow to borrow my wedding dress would be someone extremely close to me

    Post # 100
    5870 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2013

    @MeghanFly:  In your situation, no.

    If a family member or close friend wanted to use it, I’d be thrilled.  But she just sounds like she’s trying to use you. 

    Post # 101
    9950 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    Here is how I look at Wedding Dresses…

    You either are in the Camp that it is JUST A DRESS…

    Meaning people buy it, wear it, and usually go on to Resell it


    You are in the IT IS A HEIRLOOM Camp

    Meaning you buy it, preserve it, treasure it, and someday hope that it can be used in some form for a future family member / generation (be it the entire dress, the veil, or some of the fabric etc)

    It sounds to me like you are girl in the HEIRLOOM Camp

    Your Friend she sounds like she is a girl in the JUST A DRESS Camp

    So of course she cannot fathom WHY you wouldn’t lend her the dress… or think this is a good idea

    You need to tell her that you two see the dress differently

    And that you’ll try to help her find HER OWN DRESS either thru a Resale On-Line or having one made for her (Off Shore Dressmaker or via Etsy **)

    BUT she cannot have yours… sorry.

    Hon, you need to find a way to be more stronger in your beliefs and how you express them… I wouldn’t have been on the line in this convo with her with 3 minutes of uncomfortable silence and her coming away with the idea that her “idea” was a possibility afterall.


    ** PS – Another Bride recently posted about an Etsy Dressmaker (Cara Bridal) and her amazing experience, that might be a good place to start



    Post # 102
    753 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    i honestly think it was super rude of her to ask in the first place.  I’d tell her “No.” and then send her a link or two of some preowned dresses that are the same or similar to yours.  She sounds like she is a little dramatic to be honest.

    Post # 103
    404 posts
    Helper bee

    @MeghanFly:  I would totally let someone wear my dress, but idk if anyone would want to, since I’m divorced.  Bad luck there… 🙂

    Post # 104
    2142 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    I’d be stoked if I could lend mine to somebody! My dress is already a used dress, and I like that the dress has been part of more than one life, it’s kind of beautiful! I’d be hesitant if they have to alter it a lot though, unless I was ready to just give it away to them. 

    Post # 105
    502 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I wouldn’t let her borrow it, but maybe you could sell it, if you don’t have your heart set on keeping it forever. 

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