(Closed) Would you allow this?

posted 8 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Since he wants to bring her now and if your Fiance wants him in the wedding, why not just invite her? Or does he really not want to be part of the bridal party?

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I would have your Fiance talk to him.  If it were me, I would invite them both and leave him out of the bridal party if that’s what he wants.

It would lead to less stress/drama should they show up and for the rest of your lives 🙂

My stepsister did that to me about a week before my first wedding – bailed out of being a bridesmaid and didn’t come to the wedding.  It broke my stepdad’s heart and none of us spoke for years.  Avoid that if you can.

Good luck!!!  It’s not easy I know!

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

What it comes down to is, you should invite them if you want them to come (or at least wouldn’t mind if they came).  The worst that can happen is they throw out the invitation because they don’t want it.  But since he’s changed his mind once already, you definitely shouldn’t plan on him being part of the bridal party.

Post # 6
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Buzzing Beekeeper

Why can’t your fiance say “We’d really not like to be involved in whatever your personal issues are, but you are both more than welcome at our wedding.” Sometimes it’s annoying to be the adult in the situation, but in your case it sounds necessary.

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