Post # 1
If you haven’t seen my previous Best Man posts, our best man/Fiance’s brother dropped out and isn’t coming to our wedding because we didn’t invite his wife who he asked us NOT to invite for a variety of reasons. Apparently he changed his mind but never spoke to us about it and won’t speak to us now. She is very controlling over him.
The thing is we can see him showing up with his wife that day so that he gets to go to the wedding and doesn’t have to be part of the bridal party. That would make my fiance so angry but what can we do…turn them away?
Post # 3
Since he wants to bring her now and if your Fiance wants him in the wedding, why not just invite her? Or does he really not want to be part of the bridal party?
Post # 4
I would have your Fiance talk to him. If it were me, I would invite them both and leave him out of the bridal party if that’s what he wants.
It would lead to less stress/drama should they show up and for the rest of your lives 🙂
My stepsister did that to me about a week before my first wedding – bailed out of being a bridesmaid and didn’t come to the wedding. It broke my stepdad’s heart and none of us spoke for years. Avoid that if you can.
Good luck!!! It’s not easy I know!
Post # 5
What it comes down to is, you should invite them if you want them to come (or at least wouldn’t mind if they came). The worst that can happen is they throw out the invitation because they don’t want it. But since he’s changed his mind once already, you definitely shouldn’t plan on him being part of the bridal party.
Post # 6
Why can’t your fiance say “We’d really not like to be involved in whatever your personal issues are, but you are both more than welcome at our wedding.” Sometimes it’s annoying to be the adult in the situation, but in your case it sounds necessary.
Post # 7
I’m ok with both of them being there although we have to pay for there gas money, attire for both of them and there hotel rooms because they live out of state and have no jobs. But he won’t speak to us for us to even tell him we are ok with this and explain again that the only reason his wife wasnt invited is because he asked us not to invite her!