Would you ask a friend to add a trigger warning?

posted 7 days ago in Relationships
Post # 2
10093 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

I would not say anything but I’m not into policing what other people post. I have a friend who sometimes does clean up on crimescenes and deaths and can post some grotesque stuff, I just click through pretty fast if I see he’s posting pictures from work. 

Post # 3
7186 posts
Busy Beekeeper

I mean, you didn’t have to read them? You could have skipped through once you saw what it was about. 

Similar to slomotion, several of my friends work in dog/animal rescue and have posted some pretty graphic stories regarding abuse/neglect. A quick tap of the finger and it literally goes away. 

So I wouldn’t say anything.

Post # 4
289 posts
Helper bee

bookishbee90 :  I wouldn’t say anything, if this becomes a regular thing where shes posting things that are going to upset you just stop watching her stories.

Post # 5
4 posts

I would send a private message – just tell her that you think it’s great she’s sharing stories of sexual assault but as a survivor you’d really appreciate a TW, i’m sure she would be more than understanding!

Post # 6
3989 posts
Honey bee

I wouldn’t say anything and would scroll passed, but I also have a bit of an issue with the trigger warning culture.

Post # 7
205 posts
Helper bee

I would not. I agree with whitums, I have an issue with “trigger warning” culture. Life doesn’t have a trigger warning, I don’t see why online should be any different. If you don’t want to see that content, click off when you see what it’s about. 

Post # 8
853 posts
Busy bee

I don’t really have a strong feeling either way. In your shoes I probably would not ask for a trigger warning – I’d just make a mental note not to click on her stories going forward.

But I wouldn’t blame you for asking for one either. I dunno, I have mixed feelings about trigger warning culture. I do think with something as graphic as rape, a trigger warning might be justified–but I’m still not sure I’d make it a “thing” by asking my friend to add it.

Post # 9
698 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2021 - Dracut, Massachusetts

I wouldn’t say anything to her- just scroll on by. I’m not the instagram police

Post # 10
906 posts
Busy bee

Don’t police her posts. I also think trigger warnings are a bit silly.

Post # 11
1091 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: City, State

If you didn’t stop reading when you learned what the topic of her post was, how would a trigger warning have helped? 

Post # 12
6643 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2016

I think people should be more cognizant of the impact of their social media sharings on others. I’m also willing to mute or block people where necessary. Because she’s your friend, I would encourage her to put a trigger warning on her posts in the future. I can’t imagine that, given the work she’s doing, she would want to harm you (or other survivors) in the process of getting the word out. The very people who might be most inclined to find a way to support her work are likely to be the same people who have a personal experience of the traumas she’s talking referencing. Also, I’m certain her intention is not to have people scrolling quickly past her posts so she’s defeating her own purpose.

As a woman of color, I’ve had to tell some of my “woke” white friends that sharing images of black and brown people being abused and mistreated might do a good job of stoking the outrage of their other white social media friends but it’s actually potentially traumatizing to people who actually know and love (and are) Black and Brown people. Trauma porn is real and people with PTSD are most likely to feel the impact. It hadn’t even occurred to them – they just wanted to get the word out to as many people as possible as quickly as possible. Being someone who isn’t inured to images or stories of trauma is not a bad thing.

Post # 15
2578 posts
Sugar bee

I disagree with PP. I think it’s totally appropriate to let her know that her post was upsetting and that you’d have appreciated a warning, especially since this is a friend and not a random. She is clearly well intentioned and I doubt she has considered the way her actions might effect others, especially since she is new to this field. If it were me, I’d want to know if something I was doing was upsetting to a friend and might be upsetting others. It’s not about being the PC police, it’s about being considerate of the very real responses trauma survivors can experience when exposed to certain graphic images or language. I imagine as someone who works in the field she is sensitive to that and would want to know that there are ways she could improve her delivery. It’s true, it’s helpful, it’s kind. 

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