Would you ask a friend to add a trigger warning?

posted 2 months ago in Relationships
Post # 46
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Busy bee

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bookishbee90 :  Maybe I am not hip enough on this issue. However, I think that “trigger warning” is usually too vague. I agree that “graphic content: rape or abuse” would be more useful that way the reader is aware. People going through other peoples posts should not have to be traumatized when innocently reading their friends’ post. If this person was my friend, I should feel comfortable to tell her to add a warning. It’s no different then when people warn of Too Much Information or graphic images in their posts. A simple cutesy that may be mistakenly overlooked.

Post # 47
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Busy bee
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If a post on social media can ruin your day and prohibit you from working, you really shouldn’t be on social media during work.  And to answer your question, no I absolutely would not ask someone to put trigger warnings on their posts.  

Post # 48
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Busy bee

I wouldnt say anything, and i also find this really whole post really dumb…you dont need a trigger warning.

Post # 49
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Busy bee

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bywater :  but i think we should have the ability process our emotions in a controlled situation where possible. A trigger warning allows yourself to feel those emotions when you are ready and social media is not real life. Also as I said before content warnings have been around for ages for TV media films music videos etc 

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Worker bee

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sunburn :  Actually, they’ve come up with a website that makes this easy: Google Does the Dog Die? This site has a myriad of other lists compiled based on sensitive topics requested by the general public. Easier than perhaps being caught off guard by something like Where the Red Fern Grows- the book was quite graphic, unexpected for the target age group. Not sure if the movie was any better. 

 

This post is showing a lot of ignorance from people. Trigger warnings are not about bubble wrapping “everything” or about people being too sensitive in general. 

I can read abour murder, gore, and horrible things- I may feel sad, bad and mad at the world or even nauseous but that is as far as my reactions go. I can move forward with my day as normal. 

I am a recovered bulimic. My illness was extreme and it was one of the most surreal and terrible periods of my life. Content about weight, other eating disorders or dieting can put me right back to those traumatic thought processes. 

I have done a ton of work. People often talk about diets- as so many people are so eager to point out, there are no trigger warnings in real life- so I can sit with my emotions and still work instead of acting on behavior-related impulses as I would’ve earlier in my recovery. 

The internet is much easier to control and organize. Someone putting a simple “TW: eating disorder” or whatever the case may be on their content can save me a lot of unnecessary woe. 

I wouldn’t hesitate to ask a friend to add a trigger warning. That way people can make informed decisions on how to consume that content. 

In fact, in college I asked a professor to rethink a certain book in his Mysteries curriculum. I was met with compassion and understanding. The fact that he didn’t ridicule me made me feel like I could come to his class everyday and be able to expect respect, empathy and a minimum of unnecessary pain. 

To any PPs: I did not “police” his content. I have no authority over him. That book may still be on his curriculum, I’m no longer at that school. But that class was a much better experience than the Chaucer class where the professor made fun of trigger warnings- luckily none of the classes content actually triggered me, but it probably would’ve for a sexual assault survivor. 

Post # 51
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Bumble bee

She’s your friend and I think it would be reasonable for you to discuss this with her in the context of how it affected you personally. I wouldn’t delve into “shoulds”, ie. she SHOULD have put a trigger warning, or she’s being unreasonable for not doing so, because that’s your own personal view and not shared by everyone. xo

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Bumble bee

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revonue :  I agree with everything you wrote. This thread has helped shape my thinking about trigger warnings. To use a really generic analogy: I don’t expect kindness from total strangers that I encounter in the course of my day – but I sure do appreciate it.

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