(Closed) Would you ask your FI/groomsmen to shave for the wedding?

posted 5 years ago in Grooms/men
  • poll: Can you ask your groomsmen or FI to shave for the wedding?

    yes

    no

    depends

  • Post # 2
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    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

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    SunnierDaysAhead:  I think anyone can nicely ask their partner to shave if they prefer him not to have a beard. I don’t think she has any right to request the same of the groomsmen.

    Post # 3
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: November 2015

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    SunnierDaysAhead:  I agree with julies1949. It’s fine to ask her fiance but not to ask the groomsmen.

     

    Post # 4
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I think that is a tough one when it comes to Fiance, for groomsmen I wouldn’t say they’d have to shave. As I told mine I wanted them to be comfortable be that clean shaven or beard, whatever you choose, please at least take a shower before so you can be all nice and clean! My husband loves to grow out his chops and I’m not exactly a fan. He asked me what I wanted and I told him the truth, I’d prefer him to be clean shaven, but if he REALLY wants the chops then for him to keep them. …he ended up shaving them.

    If your friend’s Fiance keeps his beard and later on in life looking at the photos people are asking about the beard he can at least say he had to help his team no matter the cost and have a laugh about it. And if he can actually grow a beard that it would look nice (ie not straggly and sad) I say let him keep his beard.

    TL;DR? No, you cannot dictate what people in your wedding party do with their facial hair.

    Post # 5
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    Buzzing bee

    Perosnally, no I don’t think she can ask or force him to shave. But she can ask them to tidy up the edges and make them look extra neat for the wedding.

    Post # 6
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    Buzzing bee

    Sorry no.  Is he going to approve her makeup and hair style?  Nope, this really is part of who he is if he does it every year.

    Post # 7
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    Buzzing bee

    You described them as looking “neat” and “dapper”, what’s the issue?

    Post # 8
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2015

    My fiancé- absolutely. Grown men who I am not marrying- not my place to ask. If anything Fiance could ask, but I wouldnt “make” him make a stink about it, it’d be up to him. 

    Post # 9
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    Bumble Beekeeper

    Even if the beard isn’t his usual look, it’s his look at this moment, which is nice to capture. I think the beards would look nice if they are maintained. DH has a beard, and I was ok with both keeping it or shaving it off. I think it would be less stress for everyone if the beard issue was just left alone. 

    Post # 10
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2016

    Ummm no. 

    For one it’s his body and he can shave or not shave as he likes. (And the bride dictating to the groomsmen is even more out of the question).

    for two, what if he shaves and then the team loses?? He would NEVER forget it, and probably wouldn’t let her, either.

     

    Post # 11
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2016

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    SunnierDaysAhead:  also is this the Disney nightmare bride??

    Post # 12
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    Helper bee

    I say there’s no harm in asking if they would all shave, but you can’t force them to. If they don’t want to shave at least see if they are willing to make sure the beards look clean and groomed and not all messy and out of Control. Personally, my thing would be no neck hair, can’t stand it.

    Post # 15
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I’m a big hockey fan, so I get the importance of a playoff beard. The GMs, no. Don’t say anything. The fiancé, absolutely. If he doesn’t normally have a beard, I think she can ask. It won’t look like him in the pictures. 

     

    I used to work with a guy who runs a very well-known blog for our local hockey team. He is truly the biggest hockey guy I ever met. He does the playoff beard. One day during playoffs, he came in clean-shaven. I asked about it, and he said he shaved because he was a guest at a wedding and his girlfriend had asked him to. If he could do it as a guest, the fiancé can do it as a groom. 

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