(Closed) Would you ask your FI/groomsmen to shave for the wedding?

posted 5 years ago in Grooms/men
  • poll: Can you ask your groomsmen or FI to shave for the wedding?
    yes : (23 votes)
    18 %
    no : (78 votes)
    60 %
    depends : (30 votes)
    23 %
  • Post # 46
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

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    Kaymar:  “Put on ice skates.”  That’s amusing.  First of all, they’re called skates.  Second, that’s me training a high performance player, because I’ve spent my entire life in the game, and am now a professional coach.  Third, it’s a superstition, like rally caps, or lucky underwear.  It’s utterly ridiculous to consider it more important than your friend’s wedding.

    Post # 47
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

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    Duncan:  I know it is a superstition. That doesn’t mean that it lacks meaning. But go ahead and lecture me on skates versus ice skates.

    Post # 48
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2016

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    Duncan:  you would be considering it more important than a friend’s wedding if somehow a beard meant that you couldn’t go to the wedding. Keeping a beard as-is is saying that participating in an act of team spirit is more important than being a prop in pictures for a pretty princess day.

    Post # 50
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2015

    I will be in the minority, but I think you can absolutely ask someone to shave, as they are adults they can say no however as an adult I can say who stands at the wedding. I am not fussed about beards (as long as they were neat, so no duck dynasty beards!) but I do not agree with the bee’s who think its so unreasonable to ask. I personally think on your wedding day you have the right to choose what and who are in your wedding and for what reason. 

    Post # 51
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2015

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    SunnierDaysAhead:  I would not ask anyone to shave because they are adults and can make their own decisions and because a wedding is just one day but I also like beards. I think she could tell her fiancé how she feels and see what he thinks but shouldn’t get upset if he doesn’t want to shave. I don’t think you should say anything to groomsmen though.

    Post # 52
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

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    julies1949:  Yes asking your Fiance is OK , but if YOU asked her Fiance thats not ok

    My husbands best man had a really massive beard/mustach thing going before my wedding and I didnt really care ( he can grow facial hair like a boss) I would have preferred it shaved but I wasnt about to ask

    . It kidn of worked out because his best man is dating one of my best friends ( a bridesmaid) and she hates the beard and made him shave anyway LOL

    Post # 53
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    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

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    Boxerlover24:  

    I think anyone can nicely ask their partner to shave if they prefer him not to have a beard. I don’t think she has any right to request the same of the groomsmen.

    So we agree. Which part of my answer did you have trouble understnding?

    Post # 54
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

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    julies1949:  What is your problem? I agreed with you hence the “YES” then added my own story that kind of related….Jeeze! Calm down! 

     

    Post # 55
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

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    SunnierDaysAhead:  I bet those pictures will be so cute! I’m glad everything worked out.

    One of my DH’s groomsmen showed up the day of the rehearsal dinner after having been camping for a week and he looked rough.  Ratty, scraggly facial hair and bedhead.  I said in a really enthusastic voice “I’m so happy to see you!  You should go take a shower and shave before the photographer gets here!” Everyone laughed and they still tease both of us about it.  I don’t think it’s demanding to expect people to look presentable, but if the beards are neat and groomed, then that’s presentable!

    Post # 56
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    Bumble bee

    I voted “depends” because I would feel comfortable asking Darling Husband to shave, but I would not ask the groomsmen. That’s not my place. 

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