Post # 1
Hey Bees, really need some help with this one.
My Fiance and I fell in love with a venue that is slightly out of our budget. We can make it work, but only if we move our wedding to a Friday night, hence the question, would you attend a Friday night wedding?
Our rehersal would have to be on Thursday night. Our ceremony would begin at 6pm Friday evening. 95% of our guests are going to be out of town, but 80% of those are within a three hour drive. In case that changes your answer at all.
Post # 3
@MissComicBook: Just attended my first one last week. I had to leave work early – thankfully it’s not a big deal where I work. Their ceremony started at 6, too, and was pushed back to about 6:20 due to people arriving late. Several showed up right after the ceremony ended, too. I’d see if you could start at 6:30, just to be safe.
Overall the experience was fine, I just felt bad for the couple because they had to delay a while.
Post # 4
@littlemisst08: I’m nervous to push it back to 6:30 becase it will be in November and the sun might be down by then. We fell in love with the venue because of it’s stunning outdoor views and I would hate to lose those because it got dark quick.
Post # 5
I would do my best to attend, however I would decline if I had to take off work, or if the drive was more than an hour away…
Post # 6
I’d have no problem, just be prepared for some people to miss the ceremony and only make it to the reception.
Post # 7
I definitely would. As long as your invites were sent at a reasonable time there wouldn’t be any issue for me. I consider the invite to be like a “hey make plans for this date” type of thing so, I would know ahead of time if I needed to take a day off from work or leave work early so I wouldn’t be late to your wedding. Besides, don’t most people go out on a Friday evening anyway for dinner or drinks or something?
Post # 8
I’ve been really annoyed with both Friday weddings that I’ve attended in the past year, but have made it work to support the couple 🙂
Post # 9
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
It would depend on how close of a relationship we had but generally a Friday night wedding is not a big deal and given proper notice I would take the afternoon off so I could attend.
Post # 10
@MissComicBook: Gotcha. I think y’all will be fine starting at 6. This wedding I attended was also on a holiday weekend, and in the middle of BFE. That attributed to the lateness of some, including us! We were about 5 mins late, but then the ceremony was delayed some.
Post # 11
@rome116: That was my thought exactly.
Post # 12
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
Ours was at 6pm on a Friday- we told people it was starting promptly at 6pm, and a few were late anyway. (Even one who we specifically advised that there was a baseball game that night, so traffic might be worse.) Do what works for you.
Unless guests have a lot of weddings in one year, taking a day off isn’t a big deal. Just be prepared that some guests won’t be able to get time off work/won’t be able to make it- we had a few Out of Town guests who were maybes, and then nos, because of it being a workday.
Post # 13
@MissComicBook: Where are you located, and when in November is it? Because of the Daylight Savings thing, the sun might set at like 4:30…
Post # 14
To have the venue of your dreams within your budget, do it.
We had a 6pm Friday wedding and out of 165 invited we had 130 attend. Yes people had to take time off work and yes our venue was around two hours away for most (some 12+ hours away) but with the advance notice (sent Save-The-Date Cards out 8 months in advance) we gave everyone they made it work. We appreciated their efforts and threw one hell of a party for them, a nice deal all around. 🙂
Post # 15
Hell yah I would. My own wedding will be on a Friday, but luckily 95% of our guest lost IS local. However that wouldn’t stop me from attending – I would want to take the day off to get ready and prettied up for the night so I might as well make a drive that day too.
Post # 16
We’ve been to one Friday wedding that was for DH’s cousin. We both took the day off. To be quite honest, it was not a good idea, though it was a combination of factors.
1) It was located at least 2.5-3 hours away, taking into account traffic, which there was a lot of.
2) It was supposed to start at 6:00 p.m. Almost no one showed up on time, except for close family that took the time off.
3) People got their invitations about 1.5 months in advance. This combined with 1 and 2 yielded about about 30% attendance rate. It was really bad because there were literally full tables that were completely empty. In DH’s culture, it’s not common for the more traditional/older folks to RSVP, so that’s why there was room for them, rather than only setting up enough tables for the confirmed.
4) Almost no one danced. It could’ve been the crowd but perhaps people were tired from working and driving there.
5) Bride and groom ran late too, presumably because of traffic. They didn’t book lodging/prep rooms close enough to the venue.