Post # 1
We really want to be married on our 10 year anniversary. However, it falls on a Tuesday, and its in the winter.
The venue we found that we love is only available on a Saturday. And we both do not want to have our reception in the winter. Most of our family is also in school. I was thinking we could have a private ceremony with our parents, and celebrate with everyone in May/June.
Would you attend if the wedding was 3 months before? I love the fact that before the reception, we could have wedding photos taken without the guests waiting for us.
What do you think?
Post # 3
If you’re just having the reception, I can see people skipping it since it technically won’t include a ceremony.
Personally, I’d go if you were a friend. IF I could.
I will warn you, that some people might not be able to go due to it, technically, not being a wedding. (Some workplaces are weird that way…. 😉 )
good luck!!! and I don’t blame you for wanting to get married on your 10 year anniversary!
Post # 4
I would go. Who doesn’t love a celebration? People get married in different ways and at different times. I understand that. The question is… would your friends and family understand that? Also, would a lot of your guests be coming from out of town? People may not make the trip if you are already married. If most of your friends and family are in your town, then I think you should go ahead with your plans.
Post # 5
I’ve been to more than 1 of these. didn’t think a thing of it. Lots of older/encore couples do this kind of thing.
Post # 6
I’d go if I could make it, but I honestly wouldn’t put the same priority on it. Ie, I wouldn’t travel to it unless I had something else going on; if I had another wedding the same day, I’d probably go to the one with the ceremony, etc. Of course, those who are extremely important to you will be there regardless. It just depends on what you picture for your wedding celebration.
(I haven’t been to one yet, though I’m going to a reception in July for a Destination Wedding that was in Feb, but I kind of doubt the emotion will be the same.)
Post # 7
It would depend a lot more on circumstances like where, when, convenience, stuff like that. I agree with the PPs that it wouldn’t get high priority like a wedding would – it would seem just like a regular party.
Post # 8
I’d go unless there was something I couldn’t get out of that prevented me! 🙂
Post # 10
I would go. Even though it isn’t the day you got married, it would still be fun to celebrate with you!
Post # 11
Thanks for the answers so far! Its great to see so many people say yes!
Post # 12
Yea, I’d go and celebrate! 🙂
The only thing I will say to you is that people who are very close to you (maybe family and really close friends) may get hurt feelings because they didn’t get to see the actual ceremony. Personally, if one of my VERY good friends got married in a private ceremony that I couldn’t attend, I’d be a little sad (although after planning my own wedding, I would understand). However, if it was not a really close friend, then I wouldn’t be upset about not being invited to the private ceremony. If that makes sense…
Post # 13
I have gone to these before, not a problem in my book : )
It’s the couple that I care about, and I want to celebrate with them.
Post # 14
If I was really close/it wasn’t really really far to travel I would definitely go.
HOWEVER, if it was difficult to arrange time to go, had to travel really far (more than 2-4 hours) or I wasn’t really tight with either bride or groom, then no, probably not.
Post # 15
We were married in February but had our wedding in September, however, we did our September wedding all out (ceremony, reception, dress…etc) even though we were legally already married. Almost all of our invited guest attended, as they viewed this day as our wedding too.
I had a friend who was married in Vegas and then had a reception at a local bar a month later. A few weeks before the reception, a work trip came up that I probably would have fought to get out of it it were their actual wedding, but since it was their reception, open-house style, 1 hour away, I opted to go on the work trip instead. Sometimes I look back and feel bad for not going to their reception, but it didn’t seem like a priority at the time because I can hang out at the bar with them anytime without 100 other people trying to get their attention…..
Post # 16
I would definitly go. In some cultures a wedding ceremony is private and then a party is held afterwords sometimes even 6 months afterwords. So I think that if people are invited only to a reception that they should go to support the couple.