Post # 1
Ok here is the deal. It started out as a small wedding with onlyclose family attending. Now we are having our ceremony in my dad’s friend church and I want to put some people in the pews to fill out some space lol. Now we have already paid for our reception at a restaurant for our family so no one else can be added to that ticket. Do you think people will still want to come see us get married if we dont provide a reception? What if I still give them wedding favors and maybe serve some finger foods. Would you still attend???
Post # 3
It’s pretty rude to invite people to attend the ceremony and not the reception. Especially since you’re doing it “just to fill some seats”
Post # 4
I agree with PP, I personally think it’s in very bad taste to invite someone to the ceremony and not the reception, especially for your stated reason. When I clicked on this, I originally thought you were going to say you just weren’t having a reception, but if you’re having a reception after your ceremony, you should invite everyone that was invited to the ceremony. Also I’ve decided not to vote on the poll because it’s kind of misleading. I would certainly attend a wedding if there was no reception at all, which is kind of what your poll suggests, but if I found out I was an afterthought to fill space, I wouldn’t go and I think I would be kind of offended. Just my personal opinion.
Post # 5
yikes, this is not a good idea girl!
Post # 6
If I found out I was invited merely to fill space and make a wedding look full, that would be the bigger reason of why I wouldn’t attend a wedding.
Post # 7
Well technically if you serve finger foods and some drinks it is a reception. I’d just be careful not to ignore the guests that have come out to witness your wedding. Please at least do a formal introduction, and 1 or 2 speeches and spend some time socialising with your guests.
Post # 8
Eh, I think that dinner for your family is different. Do a “cake and punch” reception at the church for those attending the ceremony. If I was close to you and cared about you, I’d attend with no hesitation, but of these people really are just seat fillers they might not come.
Post # 9
Like @LilliePad:, I initially clicked on this link thinking that you were just not having a reception, and that this would be fine. However, I’m going to have to agree with the prior posters. I would not want to invite people to my wedding simply to “fill seats” and then not include them in my reception.
Post # 11
- Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House
I went to one where the couple stayed around for about an hour-ish while people ate cupcakes on the church property, and then went off to their tiered reception, which we weren’t invited it. It would be diffferent if it were a family dinner, but I was really offended that we weren’t invited since it seemed like 80% of the people at the wedding were invited to the reception, and they made the food themselves.
Just tread carefully, or go in with the mindset that you don’t care if people get offended
Post # 12
If it was local, I might go, but I wouldn’t travel if I wasn’t invited the reception.
Post # 13
If the reception is truley family only and no exceptions and I knew about it then I would go if it were convenient and a close friend.
I wouldnt go if it were too far, inconvenient or someone I wasnt really close to.
IfI found out even one friend went to the reception then I would be pretty mad at not making the cut.
Post # 14
I think it is okay to invite people to the ceremony and a low-key reception with cake, punch, finger food, etc. Then with your immediate family and friends you can have the restaurant dinner. But you cannot invite people to the ceremony only. There needs to be something for them.
Post # 15
Treat people as you want to be treated. Would you like to be a ceremony seat filler that doesn’t rank a reception invite? I wouldn’t.
Post # 16
I have no problem attending a local wedding of people I really care about if there’s no reception. I DO have a problem with being invited simply to fill a pew.