(Closed) Would you attend a wedding ceremony that is not having a reception?

posted 6 years ago in Reception
  • poll: Would you attend a wedding ceremony that will not have a reception, only serve finger foods?
    Yes : (43 votes)
    48 %
    No : (47 votes)
    52 %
  • Post # 3
    3078 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    It’s pretty rude to invite people to attend the ceremony and not the reception.  Especially since you’re doing it “just to fill some seats”

    Post # 4
    839 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    I agree with PP, I personally think it’s in very bad taste to invite someone to the ceremony and not the reception, especially for your stated reason. When I clicked on this, I originally thought you were going to say you just weren’t having a reception, but if you’re having a reception after your ceremony, you should invite everyone that was invited to the ceremony. Also I’ve decided not to vote on the poll because it’s kind of misleading. I would certainly attend a wedding if there was no reception at all, which is kind of what your poll suggests, but if I found out I was an afterthought to fill space, I wouldn’t go and I think I would be kind of offended. Just my personal opinion.

    Post # 5
    2999 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    yikes, this is not a good idea girl!

    Post # 6
    2426 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: December 2009

    If I found out I was invited merely to fill space and make a wedding look full, that would be the bigger reason of why I wouldn’t attend a wedding. 

    Post # 7
    443 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    Well technically if you serve finger foods and some drinks it is a reception. I’d just be careful not to ignore the guests that have come out to witness your wedding. Please at least do a formal introduction, and 1 or 2 speeches and spend some time socialising with your guests. 

    Post # 8
    1659 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    Eh, I think that dinner for your family is different. Do a “cake and punch” reception at the church for those attending the ceremony. If I was close to you and cared about you, I’d attend with no hesitation, but of these people really are just seat fillers they might not come. 

    Post # 9
    11419 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2009

    Like @LilliePad:, I initially clicked on this link thinking that you were just not having a reception, and that this would be fine.  However, I’m going to have to agree with the prior posters. I would not want to invite people to my wedding simply to “fill seats” and then not include them in my reception.

    Post # 11
    6221 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

    I went to one where the couple stayed around for about an hour-ish while people ate cupcakes on the church property, and then went off to their tiered reception, which we weren’t invited it. It would be diffferent if it were a family dinner, but I was really offended that we weren’t invited since it seemed like 80% of the people at the wedding were invited to the reception, and they made the food themselves. 

    Just tread carefully, or go in with the mindset that you don’t care if people get offended

    Post # 12
    2425 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    If it was local, I might go, but I wouldn’t travel if I wasn’t invited the reception.

    Post # 13
    2622 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    If the reception is truley family only and no exceptions and I knew about it then I would go if it were convenient and a close friend.

    I wouldnt go if it were too far, inconvenient or someone I wasnt really close to. 

    IfI found out even one friend went to the reception then I would be pretty mad at not making the cut.

    Post # 14
    4047 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    I think it is okay to invite people to the ceremony and a low-key reception with cake, punch, finger food, etc. Then with your immediate family and friends you can have the restaurant dinner. But you cannot invite people to the ceremony only. There needs to be something for them.

    Post # 15
    13 posts
    • Wedding: July 2012

    Treat people as you want to be treated. Would you like to be a ceremony seat filler that doesn’t rank a reception invite?  I wouldn’t. 

    Post # 16
    2103 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    I have no problem attending a local wedding of people I really care about if there’s no reception. I DO have a problem with being invited simply to fill a pew.

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