Post # 1
My Fiance and I both have alcoholic mothers and because of this, we’ve both always chosen to be sober to make sure we didn’t follow in their footsteps. It’s partly what makes us work so well together. In addition to that, my grandparents raised me, and while I am not religious and the ceremony also will not be, they are extreme southern bible-belt christians and would never pay for their to be alcohol at my wedding.
I’m perfectly fine with my wedding not having alcohol, but my question is, would you still want to attend?
Post # 3
@frommisstomrs.: yes and I have before! My family is southern baptist also, so it’s an everyday occurrence to attend a function with no alcohol. But I don’t drink that much, anyways.
Post # 4
I’m not going to a friends wedding because they have booze. I’m going because I love them and am excited for them. Anyone who chooses to not come to a wedding because there is no alcohol shouldn’t have been invited in the first place because obviously they don’t actually care about the couple.
Post # 5
Yes. Both Darling Husband and I normally drink when we go to weddings, but we’ve been to weddings without alcohol. It doesn’t dissuade me at all.
Post # 6
It wouldn’t bother me any, however; if you and your Fiance decide to not have it because YOU personally don’t want it, that’s fine! If you’re looking to safeguard against others’ actions, you could be disappointed, especially if your mothers are both truly alcoholics, they may provide their own.
Post # 7
I love my cocktails and wine that being said I typically don’t go to weddings for the booze and I don’t need booze to have a good time.
If I see the bride and groom happy am at the ceremony there is nothing to be disappointed by.
Post # 8
I would find it a little shallow of a person who would chose not to come solely because alcohol wasn’t being served. You can have a great time celebrating your wedding with loved ones without alcohol! Have you considered serving virgin drinks with cute names?
Post # 9
Yes. I have, last year and it was still a blast.
Post # 10
my wedding didn’t have any. and we actually couldn’t at our venue. no one had an issue with it. although it wasn’t a big party bash like other weddings seem to be but it was nice! and I have no awful drunk fights, or spilled secrets or any of that ! lol
Post # 11
@frommisstomrs.: Numerous times on this website I’ve expounded on my experience of attending out of state (lots of effort on my part to get there) back to back family weddings WITH NO FREAKIN’ ALCOHOL. Stuck for hours on a Saturday night with nothing to drink. uggh.
Yes, it’s sad that I’ve become one of those bores who don’t wish to socialize at a late night party without alcohol. I never thought I’d be this person, but I’m being straightforward with you and speaking only for myself. I actually told Darling Husband after that “no more of your family’s weddings” and I’ve not since then attended any. Call me shallow!
If you had an afternoon wedding or an early eveing wedding with cake reception, I’d be ok with that. But please do not hold me captive for hours at a time on Saturday night without alcohol. A cash bar is fine with me.
I would also like to clarify: when you say “alcohol” you mean no beer or wine, right? I reason I ask is because I know someone who is an EMT worker and because she and her Fiance work too many alcohol related car accidents, they didn’t want “alcohol” at their wedding. Later I learned that meant they would not serve hard liqour BUT they would have beer and wine. I perked up at that–that works for me. I don’t drink hard liqour.
Post # 12
I drink rarely, so lack of alcohol wouldn’t prevent me from attending at all.
Post # 13
Of course I’d still go. Saturday night dry weddings aren’t usually done in my family/circle, and when they do occur, my Darling Husband and I still attend, but silently wish the newly-weds had some beer/wine options for guests to enjoy at the reception.
Post # 14
If you were someone at all important to me, I’d attend without a second thought. Especially because I’d most likely be close enough to you to know why you don’t drink. If you were an acquaintance/coworker and I was on the fence about going to begin with, the no booze would probably tip me towards saying thanks but no thanks… but you wouldn’t miss anybody in that category anyway!
Post # 15
Yes, and I have been to them. I do find they wind down quite a bit earlier though.
Post # 16
Honestly, I don’t get why people feel alcohol is so important and get so bent out of shape or not. I drink wine and champagne once in a while, but can take it or leave it. Sometimes I drink at weddings that have alcohol and sometimes I don’t. I never go into a wedding reception with any expectation other than that some sort of refreshments will be offered.
Given your family history, I think it’s understandable that you don’t wish to serve alcohol. If someone has a problem with it, then you don’t need to have them at your wedding. People should respect your decision.