(Closed) Would you attend this graduation?

posted 6 years ago in College
  • poll: Would you attend?
    Yes : (10 votes)
    22 %
    No : (32 votes)
    70 %
    Other : (4 votes)
    9 %
  • Post # 3
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    Sugar bee

    Honestly, she probably just didn’t want to be rude and said yes in case you were set on coming. I guess it’d be up to you: do you want to spend the time and money, even if you can’t attend the ceremony? If so, then do it. But otherwise, go with the plan of celebrating a month later at her little sister’s grad and send a nice card.

    Post # 4
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I think you should still think about going- to me it depends on how close you are and if you want to be there to support her anyway.  This happened with my sister’s Graduation from Columbia- she only got 4 tickets, but everyone in my immediate family still went to be there for the support.  I think it is up to you and what is best for you though (if you can get the time off and have the extra $ to fly twice, etc.)

    Post # 5
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    If I were your niece, I wouldn’t be upset or mad that you couldn’t make it due to the lack of tickets available. I would completely understand. On the other hand, if you can make the trip two times, feel free! 

    Post # 6
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I wouldn’t be upset if you couldn’t make it and it would be nice to go nd make a trip of it and be there for a celebration after. Dinner at the very least or is there a party planned? I would want to be at my nieces graduation from college, it’s a big deal to me though:)

    Post # 7
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2008

    @oracle: Perhaps she didn’t think to invite you originally because she didn’t think you’d want to fly out just for her graduation? I definitely wouldn’t expect my out of state family to come for my graduation! She probably was surprised you would want to come, I think that’s super sweet! 

    So you can’t purchase a seat? that’s a bummer 🙁

    but if you were set on going and can afford two trips, why not?! sounds fun and it sounds like she would really appreciate it.

    Post # 8
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    If you guys can afford it, I would go. It seems like it is simportant to her and just because you wont be able to physically see her walk across teh stage doesn’t mean you can’t be there for the celebration!

    Post # 10
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2018

    I think you should go even if you don’t attend.  Maybe you can go somewhere nice after the formalities.

    I only get two tickets for my graduation, with no option to purchase more.  Obviously, I have allocated them to my parents.  That means my brothers and more importantly my OH can’t come. But I still want them there, for photos and champagne and stuff.

    Post # 11
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    If there are only a set number of tickets and her immediate family is filling them, then maybe you can go out to dinner with all of them after? You also might be able to get into the graduation if there is extra room. Can her mom call you once she is there? Sometimes people give tickets away. But really, I think if you flew out and saw her after it is just as important…she wont be able to sit with you during the ceremony after.

    Post # 12
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    I think it will probably mean a lot to her that you came such a long way even though you couldn’t attend the ceremony. I think being there for a graduation party/dinner is more important anyway, since she probably wouldn’t even be able to see or talk to you at the actual ceremony.

    Post # 13
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2012

    The ceremony itself is only a part of graduation.  You can still show up outside the building for pictures and go out for dinner or to the party the night before (or after!) My SO’s entire extended family (30+ people) go to every graduation and they always have a blast!  You say you’ve got the time and money, why not!

    Post # 14
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    @oracle:  You are so sweet.  She will love the support of you coming, even if you aren’t at the boring ceremony part 🙂

    Post # 15
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    3255 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I think it would certainly be nice if you could be there, but I hardly think it’s necessary. I attended college out of state and only my parents and then-fiance attended my college graduation. I didn’t feel slighted in the least because it would have been hard for my family to travel to my graduation; I even had unlimited tickets and didn’t feel bad about it! You are very sweet to worry so much about this, though. 🙂

    Post # 16
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    I would go if y’all can afford it.  I don’t think she is expecting you two to make the trip since only 4 tickets were allotted, but it would be nice to be there with your family to celebrate.

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