Post # 1
Were in the midst of planning a new wedding, after scrapping the previous one for many reasons. We’ve decided on the venue which is in Niagara on the Lake which is about an hour and a half drive for all guests.
Initially we were planning on only inviting closest immediete family and friends which would bring the guest list to 20. However, we found a more affordable option of a luncheon wedding. We love our destination and the venue, and are set on getting married there. Our original wedding had a guest list of 50 and Save The Dates were sent out. Everyone has been notified that the original wedding has been cancelled.
I would like to invite all 50 guests again but I think I am concerned about the logistics. Since the venue is quite a drive for our guests and it is only a luncheon wedding, would you attend if you were invited? Granted everyone who is invited is very close family and friends, but I don’t want anyone to feel obligated and I think everyone might think it’s a waste of time to come all that way for a luncheon and then have to leave by 3:00.
If we just invite the 20 I think many of the 50 guests would be ok with that, because they know it’s just immediete family. But since I already sent STD’s to the original wedding, I think many would assume they would be invited to the new wedding were planning. What are your thoughts?
Post # 3
I would attend any wedding of a close friend or family member, since I am going to help them celebrate – not for the free food.
Post # 4
I think it’d be worth it to send the invites to all 50. If they want to be there, they’ll (most likely) come! An hour and a half is annoying, but it’s not that bad, especially for the wedding of someone you’re close to.
Post # 5
I would send to the original 50 and let them decide if its too far for them since you already invited them before. You might be surprised how many people out of the 30 still want to attend and those that dont can simply just decline
Post # 7
I would totally go because I would want to help celebrate with ANY close family member or friend. Also, even though everything is over by 3, that’d make a great day trip and I would probably hang around the rest of the evening so yes, I would go. Invite all 50 and keave it up to them whether they wish to attend or not.
Post # 8
I’d be there with bells on!! That’s similar to what I was originally considering for my wedding, but it got shouted down by fiance’s family. So now we’re doing it anyway, as a suprise wedding
As for the Save-The-Date Cards and so on…given that there’s only a relatively small number that would be attending, I think just contact them and explain the situation either “We’ve had to make a change to the wedding plans, so now it’s going to be in a bit of an out of the way place, but we don’t want people to feel pressured to come, would you still be able to make it? We completely understand if not.” OR “The stress of planning a big wedding was really getting to me and fiance, so we’re just doing a small (immediate family) daytime ceremony and lunch now. I’m really sorry that we won’t be able to have you and all the other people there, but maybe after the wedding, we can still get together and have dinner/few drinks/round of golf.”
In my experience, most people are pretty understanding of the stress of weddings – pretty much all of my friends and family have told me to just elope, or only invite immediate family because they can see I’m stressed, so hopefully your friends and family will be understanding!
Post # 9
I would absolutely still go. Honestly, having an earlier end to the evening is a plus when you’ve got a long drive at the end of it!
Post # 10
If you want to invite them, I would go for it. Niagara on the Lake is pretty, so people should be able to find things to do with the rest of the day if they drive out there 🙂 If you can afford the cost and would like to invite people, the worst thing that could happen is they decline. You are already aware of potential reasons that people would decline, so as long as you are prepared for some “no” responses, invite away.
I would go 🙂
Post # 11
I don’t think an hour and a half is that far for close family and very close friends to drive. I would do it for family and very close friends, although Lord knows it’d be torture sitting next to my husband while he complained about it for an hour and a half. I think since you already sent the Save-The-Date Cards you should just go ahead and invite all 50 people, and if someone doesn’t want to come and make the drive, they can just decline the invite. Just because you do invite them doesn’t mean they have to say yes. At least this way they can make their own decision.
Post # 12
niagara on the lake is SOOO pretty. sometimes, i wish i was getting married out here. there are some super pretty places out in niagara.
anyway. i would go to the wedding, especially if i were a close friend or family member. like pigzfly said, there’s plenty to do and see, so even after the wedding, they could make time to be a tourist.
Post # 14
In ontario, 90 minutes is a typical commute to work for some! I’d go!
Post # 15
I would attend if it was dinner & dancing & would stay overnight.. A lunch? Probably not, unless it was a close friend or immediate family.
Post # 16
@takemyhand: Very good point. I spend far too much time commuting to work.
Thanks Ladies!!! I think I’ll send invites out to everyone that was originally invited. I never wanted a big wedding, but 50 is still small and their all super close friends and family so I think they might be hurt if I didn’t extend the invite.
We were planning on hitting the club that night for drinks and dancing with our bridal party and siblings, so this way all my cousins and other friends can join us. The other family attending would be my Father’s siblings and their spouses so maybe they can all go out to dinner together if they decide to sight see and be tourists. NOTL is such a beautiful place with lot’s to do and a quick drive to the falls, so I can’t see anyone really groaning about it.