- 4 years ago
- Wedding: July 2012
Not sure if I have this in the right category, but it deals with both weddings and babies.
So I posted a while back about my friend that cheated on her husband twice and is currently with one of the guys and in the middle of a divorce. I was posting to ask whether I should go out to eat with them since I didn’t support what she was doing. The Bees gave me lots to think about. I realised I was being a pretty judgemental friend and decided to support her like I have done for the last (almost) 25 years and be happy for her. I have upheld my promise. http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/should-i-go-to-dinner#axzz2kSyBWWRf
I have yet to meet her new SO. We’re now looking at November 30, since Darling Husband cancelled our last double-date night due to him surprising me with a weekend away. She texted me today and said that she isn’t engaged just yet because the divorce isn’t finalized, but that they are looking at a July wedding and she wanted to know if I would be her Maid/Matron of Honor. The wedding would be in Vegas because he isn’t a big, traditional wedding guy (shy I guess), and it’s her 2nd time. Plus they just went there on a trip and both loved it.
I said I would gladly come support her and be her Maid/Matron of Honor and would make the trip in July so long as it worked with my schedule and depending on how I felt with a new baby.
After some deeper thinking, I’m almost certain my answer will be a concrete no…
1) The baby will be 3 months old at best (I am due mid-April). I do not want to take it on a plane that young (I don’t even know if you can) nor do I think I will want to be away from it for that many days. Plus I will have already taken off at least 2-3 months for maternity leave. I don’t anticipate taking off the full 3 months under the FMLA, but I plan on taking a full month off and then I may work part time from home for the next month.
2) More than likely Darling Husband wouldn’t be able to come with. He’s a teacher, so during the summer months he works a different job that he’s held for the last 9 years. Because he works just a short time in the summer, it sucks to take a lot of time off obviously. He will already have a week off in June for a choir tour with his students, but then to take a few extra days off to go to Vegas? His boss will probably be pretty hesitant, especially since its a summer job. I could go alone, but I don’t know if I’d want to do that. Being in Vegas all alone? Not sure that would make me so comfortable.
So, in the event that my husband WOULD be able to go, would you go if you were me? I am not sure what to expect with a child that young, but my guess (and my motherly instinct/gut feeling) says that 3 months old is way too young to be left back home for a few days, even if it is with grandma.
Give me some food for thought, Bees!