(Closed) Would you be annoyed if a wedding was a Wednesday night instead of Thursday?

posted 8 years ago in Ceremony
  • poll: Under these circumstances, is Wednesday really that horrible for guests? Which day should we do?

    Wednesday. It's your wedding and anniversary, and it's not that big a difference from a Thursday

    Thursday. It'd be easier for your guests, and they're still part of your wedding

    Wouldn't matter really; it's already on a weekday

    I don't know either o_O

  • Post # 3
    2083 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    Honestly, if I’m going to attend your wedding, I’m coming whether it’s a Tuesday, Wednesday, or Thursday. At the end of the day it’s a weekend and people will make it their priority to make it. Make it any day that’s good for you girlie!!!!

    Post # 4
    7547 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: January 2013

    Would it bother you if people left early? I would probably stay until 9 on Wednesday night or 10/11 on Thursday night. 

    Post # 7
    7547 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: January 2013

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    @yanamari:  That’s right, I’d probably take off Friday. Even if someone couldn’t take off Friday, I think people are more willing to go out on Thursday anyhow. Maybe because the week is almost over? 

    Post # 9
    1302 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    Tbh I am not a fan of weekday weddings, including Friday night.  Huge imposition on my work schedule, and my vacation time is already accounted for this year.  Weekday weddings might save the B&G money, but the guest wind up paying in inconvenience.

    I was invited to my first Friday wedding this year.  We skipped the 5pm ceremony and just went to the reception because we needed to work that day.

    Post # 10
    633 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    Everybody is different…for me, it wouldn’t matter b/c I work hourly and could ask off whenever I want, and my fiance’s job has a lot of flexibility, so he could go in later the next day if he wanted. You’ll just have to think about what kind of jobs your guests have. I would probably come, and stay, even if I had regular job…one day of sleepiness from celebrating a friend’s wedding? I’ll take it! I would spread the word among your friends ASAP, though…just to give them a heads up before invites go out! I do like to ask off as soon as I know something is going on, just to make sure a ton of other people don’t ask off for the same day before I do! You may have people not come or not stay b/c of the day, but I think if you go into in expecting that, you won’t be so disappointed. I’m having a Saturday late afternoon wedding, and still not expecting everyone to come!

    Post # 11
    826 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I agree with the PP who said she’d probably leave early if it was Wednesday. If it was Thursday, I’d only have one more day of work I’d need to get through, so I wouldn’t mind staying up later. On a Wednesday, I’d have 2 more days of work, so I’d want to be home early to sleep. I know it’s a difference of a day, ETAbut mentally it makes a big difference to me.

    ETA- Just wanted to add, I would still attend no matter what night it was.

    Post # 12
    348 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    It doesn’t matter if the wedding is on a Wednesday, a Thursday, a Friday, or a Monday or Tuesday — I would still have to take off work to make it on time which is a major inconvenience. Leave work, fight traffic home, change and get ready, drive to the ceremony site, and make it there on time usually takes a few hours (a very rushed few hours).  Also, if I know I have to work the next day, I’m not likely to stay past 9:00 or 10:00.

    Given the above, it would totally depend on my relationship with the B&G whether I would attend a weekday wedding or not.  If you are a member of my immediate family or a very close friend, then I wouldn’t miss it for the world.


    Post # 13
    5148 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: January 2010

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    @FutureMrsLAL:  This. 

    It is honestly unlikely I would take the next day off, whatever day it was, unless I was traveling.  Taking a Friday off just so I could stay up the night before is a bit of a waste of my vacation days as I actually prefer to use them to go on vacation, and I would also likely end up in the office on the Saturday to get my work done.

    If you are a close friend or close family member, I would make it work on a weekday, but would  not stay too late. If you are an acquaintance or less close family member? I’d likely send my regrets. This would not matter what “weeknight” it was on.

    Post # 14
    11265 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2012

    tbh, i have been to friday weddings and found that to be a bit inconvenient because i had to leave work early to get ready.  a wednesday wedding would probably be even more so inconvenient for most with regular work hours.

    you know your guests so you should pick what would be convenient for them. 

    just remember that an anniversary is still special regardless of the date it falls on.

    Post # 15
    4464 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: February 2012

    I got married on a Tuesday, people came, wedding was awesome. 🙂

    Post # 16
    2295 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    The wedding ceremony, I wouldn’t mind one bit. I’d leave the reception pretty early though – by 9 PM at the latest. That goes for Thursday too though, probably. I don’t want to use one of my vacation days on someone else’s wedding unless I am IN the wedding.

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