Post # 1
I posted something like this before, but there are some different elements now.
Fiance and I want to have our wedding on a weekday because it saves us a jillion dollars. haha. We were going to do a Thursday, but the date we wanted was picked (Thursday, September 5th). We would like to do the 25th, which is still open. We want to stick with September because we want sunset shots, we want it warm, and we do NOT want a fall-looking wedding by ANY means. (We almost did a desintation wedding to some place with beaches and palm trees.)
My mom said a Thursday would be good because then people could take off Friday and make it a long weekend. It’s an evening wedding, like 6-10pm or 11pm. We have a cash bar and a champagne toast, and we really don’t have big party people or drinkers. It’s mostly family (middle aged/older people), and our friends aren’t party animals either. Plus most of our friends are in retail or unemployed, so it wouldn’t matter to most of them.
My fiance said the 25th is a much nicer date, and WE’LL have that date forever. It’s a one-time slight inconvenience for the guests (it’s not like we’re going from Saturday to Wednesday, but Thursday to Wednesday), but his view is that it’s our wedding, and every year that our anniversary comes around, we’ll always be reminded about how we wish it had been the 25th instead of the 26th, and nobody else will remember/care.
We don’t really have any out of town guests to consider, and we have a small list of maybe 65 people. Mostly just semi-close family and some close friends.
Again, they’re not big party people or drinkers really, and we’re providing some seriously excellent food for dinner and hors d’oeuvres, so we’re not cheaping out on them either.
So what is you guys’ view point? = Would you hate us for having a wedding on a Wednesday instead of a Thursday if you were invited?
Post # 3
Honestly, if I’m going to attend your wedding, I’m coming whether it’s a Tuesday, Wednesday, or Thursday. At the end of the day it’s a weekend and people will make it their priority to make it. Make it any day that’s good for you girlie!!!!
Post # 4
Would it bother you if people left early? I would probably stay until 9 on Wednesday night or 10/11 on Thursday night.
Post # 5
@AlwaysSunny: I guess not? I mean… we’re not big on parties, so… I’m not sure what we would do after dinner and cake. haha. We’re having dancing and music, but mainly for our guests. We’ll do the traditional first dance and father-daughter dance and I’ll probably also dance with my mom, but then we’ll probably leave the rest up to the guests, if at all possible.
Why would you stay later on a Thursday versus a Wednesday? I would assume if we did Thursday, people would either leave at the same time they would a Wednesday, or they’d take off Friday and stay however late that the party went?
Post # 6
@Prettygirltisha: aw thanks! ^_^
We’re getting 10% off for booking Black Friday weekend… NO idea why. lol. but we’re trying to finalize this like… by Monday, as that’s the last day we can sign the papers!
Post # 7
@yanamari: That’s right, I’d probably take off Friday. Even if someone couldn’t take off Friday, I think people are more willing to go out on Thursday anyhow. Maybe because the week is almost over?
Post # 8
@AlwaysSunny: Oh okay. Yeah, I think you’re right. Wednesday is just so… middle of the week = Stupid dates. haha
Post # 9
Tbh I am not a fan of weekday weddings, including Friday night. Huge imposition on my work schedule, and my vacation time is already accounted for this year. Weekday weddings might save the B&G money, but the guest wind up paying in inconvenience.
I was invited to my first Friday wedding this year. We skipped the 5pm ceremony and just went to the reception because we needed to work that day.
Post # 10
Everybody is different…for me, it wouldn’t matter b/c I work hourly and could ask off whenever I want, and my fiance’s job has a lot of flexibility, so he could go in later the next day if he wanted. You’ll just have to think about what kind of jobs your guests have. I would probably come, and stay, even if I had regular job…one day of sleepiness from celebrating a friend’s wedding? I’ll take it! I would spread the word among your friends ASAP, though…just to give them a heads up before invites go out! I do like to ask off as soon as I know something is going on, just to make sure a ton of other people don’t ask off for the same day before I do! You may have people not come or not stay b/c of the day, but I think if you go into in expecting that, you won’t be so disappointed. I’m having a Saturday late afternoon wedding, and still not expecting everyone to come!
Post # 11
I agree with the PP who said she’d probably leave early if it was Wednesday. If it was Thursday, I’d only have one more day of work I’d need to get through, so I wouldn’t mind staying up later. On a Wednesday, I’d have 2 more days of work, so I’d want to be home early to sleep. I know it’s a difference of a day, ETAbut mentally it makes a big difference to me.
ETA- Just wanted to add, I would still attend no matter what night it was.
Post # 12
It doesn’t matter if the wedding is on a Wednesday, a Thursday, a Friday, or a Monday or Tuesday — I would still have to take off work to make it on time which is a major inconvenience. Leave work, fight traffic home, change and get ready, drive to the ceremony site, and make it there on time usually takes a few hours (a very rushed few hours). Also, if I know I have to work the next day, I’m not likely to stay past 9:00 or 10:00.
Given the above, it would totally depend on my relationship with the B&G whether I would attend a weekday wedding or not. If you are a member of my immediate family or a very close friend, then I wouldn’t miss it for the world.
Post # 13
It is honestly unlikely I would take the next day off, whatever day it was, unless I was traveling. Taking a Friday off just so I could stay up the night before is a bit of a waste of my vacation days as I actually prefer to use them to go on vacation, and I would also likely end up in the office on the Saturday to get my work done.
If you are a close friend or close family member, I would make it work on a weekday, but would not stay too late. If you are an acquaintance or less close family member? I’d likely send my regrets. This would not matter what “weeknight” it was on.
Post # 14
tbh, i have been to friday weddings and found that to be a bit inconvenient because i had to leave work early to get ready. a wednesday wedding would probably be even more so inconvenient for most with regular work hours.
you know your guests so you should pick what would be convenient for them.
just remember that an anniversary is still special regardless of the date it falls on.
Post # 15
I got married on a Tuesday, people came, wedding was awesome. 🙂
Post # 16
The wedding ceremony, I wouldn’t mind one bit. I’d leave the reception pretty early though – by 9 PM at the latest. That goes for Thursday too though, probably. I don’t want to use one of my vacation days on someone else’s wedding unless I am IN the wedding.