(Closed) Would you be annoyed?

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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1664 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I don’t see any reason why you should need to send him an invitation. Yes… I would definitely be annoyed. If nothing else, it’s a waste of paper.

Post # 4
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785 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Yes, I would!  Even if they’re not together, he is your sister’s guest, and should be included on her invitation.  There’s no point in wasting a stamp on him.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

You’re a bigger person than I am, because I wouldn’t do it.  That’s a ridiculous request, on a number of levels.  So, to answer your question, yes.  I would be annoyed.  

Post # 6
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1893 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Hell yeah I’d be annoyed, that’s totally ridiculous.  Tell her you’ll send him his own invitation when she officially refers to him as her boyfriend.  Hell, even then I’d just put his name with hers on her invitation.

Your sister needs to get over herself.  Don’t cater to her, you’ll only make it worse.

Post # 7
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1166 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

Sure, kind of annoying, but in the grand scheme of things, it’s a petty issue not worth getting worked up about.

If it helps you to become less annoyed, proper etiquette would require that he receive a separate invitation (assuming they do not live together). Does that help? Wink

Post # 8
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550 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I would be annoyed too.

I don’t see why it would mean so much to him to get his own invite. I think he’s lucky to be invited at all. Then again, we are keeping our wedding very small.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@cpa031211: Absolutely. I understand where you’re coming from here. I understand she is your sister (I’m not sure how old she is) but, I also have a younger sister (shes 10 years younger) and if I were in your situation I wouldn’t even adhere to your mother’s request. Your wedding is intimate affair for you to share with you and the love of your life. For you to even put on your sisters invitation + guest, I think is beyond nice. Like you said, you’re relationship with him is purely conditional. You wouldn’t have invitied him on any other terms. So, I think you have every right to be annoyed and I personally wouldnt send him a seperate invite.

Post # 10
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336 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

You’re better than me. I wouldn’t do it!

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@cpa031211: You are way better than me! I wouldn’t do it at all. That’s very ridiculous, IMO to have to have his very own invite. That makes no sense. He should be happy going as your sisters date.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

@NotYourTypicalBride: If it helps you to become less annoyed, proper etiquette would require that he receive a separate invitation (assuming they do not live together). Does that help? Wink

Only if she would’ve been inviting him on his own, sans sister.  She’s not, though.  He would be coming as her sister’s guest only.  Therefore, ettiquite dictates that his sister’s invitation with a +1 is the proper course to take.

Post # 13
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2790 posts
Sugar bee

My mother just called me to tell me that my sister has decided that it would mean a lot to the guy to get sent his own invitation.

 

I am positively sure that it means sooo much to this guy to receive his own invitation. *rolls eyes* I am willing to bet that this guy didn’t say anything or mentioned something but didn’t make it a big deal and now your sister things he should get his own. I bet he wouldn’t even notice if he got one or didn’t. I wouldn’t send one unless they were officially calling one another boyfriend/girlfriend. Otherwise he’s just some acquaintance.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Not to mention the fact that if you DO send him his own invitation and they break off whatever they have going in the next month, he then still has been invited and etiquette would then demand that you allow him to come if he wanted to because HE’S got an invitation and isn’t just a plus one!  I’d personally say no.  You wouldn’t have invited him on his own so no separate invite imho.

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