Post # 1
We weren’t able to travel to see my husband’s dad and step mom for the holiday’s but I texted his step mom wishing her a happy Thanksgiving and saying I was thankful to have her and her husband as in laws. She never replied but was on facebook posting things (it said post came from her phone). It just angers me that she ignored my text especially when she is always the one complaining that she wants more communication.last year she got upset because we could not go over at 2pm but could get there by 3 or 4 (we have his mom and my parents to visit too) so she told us not to come at all. We had money issues as we just moved into a new place so we could not make the drive, otherwise we would have gone like we always do. Would you be bothered?
Second: I have been married for six months but have noticed a change in one of my friends attitude towards me. Its not negative but I notice she always ties the fact that I’m married to everything. Like today I wished her a happy Thanksgiving and she said “may you have a great Thanksgiving as a wife” or the other day when I said I was stressed due to finals and she was like “well you are a wife and a student” there were also other comments like she told a mutual friend I probably wouldn’t be service to go out for her birthday cause Im married now. (My husband is fine with me having a girls night whenever I want). I know that when I met this particular friend she said she didn’t have many friends because they all got married and had kids. I’m starting to think she is starting to push me away.
This topic was modified 2 years, 10 months ago by snina8916.
Post # 2
Yes I would be bothered on both counts… but I wouldn^’t give too much thought or energy to either.
With the inlaw problem… you are making the effort, if she chooses to ignore, just don’t bother next time.
With your friend, it does suond like she’s pushing you away, but maybe next time you hear of her saying something like she did to your other friend about you not wanting to go out because you’re married, you could say to her “Thank you for your concern but I make my own decisions about when I go out, being married has nothing to do with me spending time with my friends and it is certainly not your place to be making those assumptions for me”
Sorry its a bit of a sucky situation
Post # 3
lozzle22: thank you for your advice I wasn’t sure what to think I’m definitely not bothering with my in laws
Post # 4
Either your stepmother is ignoring you because she’s angry you didn’t travel there for the holiday or she took your text as a heartwarming rhetorical comment, similar to a holiday greeting card. Yes, she should have replied, but she may not realize you expected that. Did you tell you father that money was an issue this year?
The friend sounds annoying but more insecure than anything else. I would have an open conversation and try to reassure her.
Post # 5
If I wanted acknowledgement over the phone, I would have called instead of texts. Another person is right; text messages are “greeting cards.” I don’t thank everyone for giving me a greeting card, and if so it’d be an endless loop of thank-yous. Next time, call.
Your friend sounds annoying. I’d just tell her to knock it off.
Post # 6
weddingmaven: interesting point of view I didn’t think of that. And yes I should tell her that. Thank you for your comment