(Closed) Would you be comfortable with driving 50mins from a church to a reception venue?

posted 5 years ago in Logistics
  • poll: Would you be willing to drive an hour between wedding and reception?
    Yes, if I am close with the person I would attend both the wedding and reception : (52 votes)
    53 %
    No, an hour is too long : (39 votes)
    40 %
    I would only attend either the wedding or reception : (7 votes)
    7 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    1159 posts
    Bumble bee

    One hour is a long drive but i would do it.

    Maybe include a map in your invitiations for your guests and allow enough transit time between the ceremony and reception.

    Post # 4
    Member
    847 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2015

    @sunshinewish15:  It depends. If it was somebody I was really close to like my best friend or my brother I would do it, but otherwise I think not. 

    More than asking people ‘would you do this?’ I think you need to ask yourself ‘is this fair to my guests?’. The answer to that question is no. It’s not fair to ask people to drive almost an hour to the wedding reception. What if somebody doesn’t have a car or can’t drive? What if they can’t carpool because they have kids (who need booster seats) and an SO  who would take up more seats than are available? What if there’s a classic ‘I thought you were the designated driver!’ situation, are people just going to be stranded at the reception? You said there is accommodation near by, are you paying for this accommodation? Will you want to spend the later part of your night helping drunk people to their hotel rooms? 

    Even if you do plan to provide shuttle busses or something, they’d have to be for every single guest and even then it would probably still be too long of a journey. I’m afraid it’s just not convenient. 

    Post # 5
    Member
    972 posts
    Busy bee

    I would do the drive if it were a close friend or family member getting married, but I would probably leave the reception by 9pm in order to drive home afterwards, rather than staying at the accommodation near the reception venue.

    Post # 6
    Hostess
    7561 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: January 2013

    I would probably just go to the ceremony unless it was someone I was really close to.

    Post # 7
    Member
    3174 posts
    Sugar bee

    If it was a close friend or a family member then I would go to both.

    Post # 8
    Member
    7992 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

    I wouldn’t mind, but only if:

    – There was plenty of car parking nearby

    -I could dump my car at my accommodation and walk to the venue, or I could dump my car at the venue, walk to my accommodation, and come back for my car the next day

    I am not driving 50 minutes if I can’t even have a drink and relax when I get there. All I can say is… your venue better be close to a whole bunch of B and Bs where drinkers can sleep overnight, otherwise that’s a pretty unreasonable request. What are guests supposed to do… drive 50 minutes there, not even have a drink, and then drive 50 minutes home? Depressing.

    Post # 10
    Member
    7992 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

    @sunshinewish15:  Sounds fine to me then. People travel long distances to attend weddings anyway, and I would always book accommodation within staggering distance unless the venue was literally next to my house. The only thing I think really is a problem is when weddings are in the middle of nowhere, and people have to rely on taxis to get back to their hotels… because sod’s law says there will only be one local taxi company, and they will be booked up, or else they will close at midnight, or something.

    Post # 11
    Member
    3053 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2015

    I would probably do it but I live in a big city so I’m used to taking 45 mins minimum to get anywhere. It wouldn’t bother me.

    Post # 12
    Member
    847 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2015

    @sunshinewish15:  I’m glad you’re considering these problems. I think it goes without saying (but I will anyway) that you need to get it across every single guest how far away the reception is before the wedding day. Most people are probably not going to look at your wedding website for anything but the registry, so I’d put it on the Save-The-Date Cards and/or the invitations. Otherwise people might not bring money to stay overnight at a motel. 

    I’d still be prepared to expect a lot of guests not bothering to go go the reception.

    Post # 13
    Member
    3136 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2018

    I don’t see why this is a big deal??? I frequently travel out of town for weddings. See if you can set up a discounted rate at a couple of the hotels and let people know. 

    Post # 15
    Member
    2073 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    Personally I think that’s too far away from the ceremony. Won’t it take too much time out of your day? We are venue hunting at the moment. The furthest we are looking at is 40 mins away and really that’s only because Future Mother-In-Law suggested it so I thought it would be polite to take a look. Last weekend we drove 30 mins to see a venue and honestly the journey felt far too long, so I’m already thinking ‘no’ to the one 40 mins away.

    Sooo many people have told me that guests will get lost if the venue is too far away. My friend even told me about a wedding where the bride and groom’s car broke down on the way to the reception!

    Personally I would choose somewhere closer – it will be more comfortable for your guests and you get to spend more time with them. Either that or move your ceremony closer to your reception venue.

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