Post # 1
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Sugar bee
- Wedding: July 2012 - Catholic Church
This is something that came up a couple of a years ago with my DH back when we were newly engaged. His roommate had started donating to a sperm bank for the extra cash (he received $80 per deposit) and he was considering doing it. I told him that I wasn’t comfortable with it because we wouldn’t know who out there was his offspring and it was too creepy to me to think that his sperm could create the person that one of our children ended up falling in love with and none of us would know that they were half siblings! I would perhaps be comfortable with donating to someone we knew in order to help them out, but it would definitely be strange for there to be someone else out there carrying his child with my blessing.
Would you be comfortable with your [male] SO donating to a sperm bank? Why or why not?
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
I’d be fine with it. Its not like he’d be having sex with tons of women and therefore having tons of babies all over the place. They really wouldnt even be “his.”
Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper
@ScottishMrs: I wouldn’t care, we’re not planning on having kids. However, I doubt my husband would ever agree to it because he doesn’t want to get slapped with some paternity suit, no matter how unlikely it may be.
Post # 5
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Sugar bee
Nope. He didn’t have kids before we met, so the only children he will be biologically fathering will be with me.
Post # 6
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Sugar bee
I would NOT be ok with this. Prior to meeting me, of course I can’t control that, but there’s no way I’d support DH doing something like that. We have a child, and knowing she has half-siblings out there would upset me.
Post # 7
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Bumble bee
Nope. I asked FI about this before. He said he didn’t want any more of his little offsprings running around out in the world. 1 was enough… he said he’d come up with a better way to make cash than jack off into a cup.
Post # 8
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Bumble bee
@ScottishMrs: We were just talking about this! Neither of us want kids but are pretty sure we are able to have kids so I don’t think either of us would mind donating sperm/eggs EXCEPT we were joking around that the child might try to come find us one day lol
I think it’d be weird 20 years later when you see a guy walking around that looks just like your SO did at that age and you CAN’T HELP but wonder lol
Post # 9
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Sugar bee
- Wedding: September 2015 - Ketchum, ID
@ScottishMrs: we’ve thought about it, but he has red hair, so he couldn’t do it anyway.
Post # 10
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Sugar bee
- Wedding: July 2012 - Catholic Church
@mrspinesol: Red heads aren’t allowed to donate? Some people want their offspring to have red hair though. I can actually name at least 6 people off-hand who really really want to have red headed children.
Post # 11
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Bumble bee
No way, he would never do this.
Post # 12
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Busy Beekeeper
Hmm I’m not sure. If we decided we for sure didn’t want kids I would be okay with it. If we do have kids I’m not sure I would want him too.
Post # 13
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Honey Beekeeper
He doesn’t have sperm anymore, but if he did, I wouldn’t care. I’m of the mindset that it would be helping a couple have a baby to grow and nourish as their own, and what a great gift it would be to help make that happen. I would make a stipulation that it could only go to a couple and could not be used for research purposes.
Post # 14
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Bumble bee
SO would definitely not be interested. Me…I probably wouldn’t be comfortable with the idea either. But I have to say, if I were a guy and I really needed money, I’d look into it!
Post # 15
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Helper bee
Definitely wouldn’t be comfortable with this.
If we needed extra money, we/he/I would get a part time side job!
Post # 16
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Busy bee
@mrspinesol: you can’t donate sperm if you have red hair?! Why?
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