Post # 32
You can always opt for a cash bar for hard alcohol, that way you are not going in the hole for a few folks who think celebrate means “all the free booze you can drink, on us”. Or, tell them to bring their own. Kinda trashy but hey, he’s the one making a big deal out of it.
Post # 33
I don’t like cash bars, not ever partial ones.
Post # 35
I think it is fine. If you want to add one signature drink for the event, that could be fun, but you certainly don’t need to
Post # 36
Seriously? Tell him not to come if he’s going to be such a judgmental prick.
Post # 37
- Wedding: July 2014 - Prague
I’m only hosting beer and wine. If people “need” something else, they will have to buy it themselves.
Post # 38
@PositiveThinking: Your brother sounds like a real character, lol. Don’t pay any attention. “Grown men” are gracious enough to happily accept whatever alcoholic (or non-alcoholic) beverages are offered to them at a hosted event. Not to mention I’ve literally never met a man who didn’t drink beer.
I know that many couples choose to offer beer and wine only at their actual wedding, and I see absolutely nothing wrong with that, so I can’t imagine why it would be “unacceptable” for a vow renewal.
Unless he’s footing the bill for his hard liquor, I’d tell him to back off. And if he doesn’t like the alcohol selection he’s free to pass on the invitation.
Post # 39
The majority of actually GROWN men, don’t whine like babies about a lack of hard liquor at a small gathering.. In fact, most adults (men or women) don’t hit the hard liquor during social functions and stick to wine/ beer/ bubbly anyways.
Post # 40
@PositiveThinking: a hosted beer and wine package is perfectly acceptable.
Post # 41
I’ve been to a few weddings which offered beer and wine only. It was fine! No one complained. If anything, it kept people from drinking in excess.
Post # 42
I don’t think that will be necessary. Even though my brother is wrong, his comments do not warrant name calling or banning him from my celebration.
Post # 43
He wasn’t saying he wouldn’t attend over this issue.
Post # 44
I say beer and wine is totally acceptable. Just spread the word through a few family and friends that if they choose to, they can bring their own drink of choice for them or to share.
My future SIL is doing this at her wedding and going to have a table set up for those that bring their own beverages. A pot-luck bar, if you will!
CONGRATS on your renewal!
Post # 45
I think beer and wine is fine! I wouldn’t be disappointed. I’d drink wine and my husband likes both!
Post # 46
I agree. Like I said, my brother is very spoiled. He is the youngest and my mother’s favorite. He has always had everything given to him, while I worked for everything that I have.
I used to harbour a lot of resentment for how easy life was for my brother, because he was treated like he was special. Now I realize that it doesn’t do me any good to be jealous and angry. Life is too short for that. Besides, I have a husband who thinks the sun shines out of my ass.