(Closed) Would you be disappointed too?

posted 5 years ago in Family
Post # 2
10282 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

I also waited 7 years to get engaged. Waiting a long time doesn’t make you more entitled to pre-wedding parties. Honestly, you do sound bratty. Who cares if the 19 year old is getting a shower and you aren’t? Maybe they think she needs a bit more help starting out than you will.

My FI’s family hasn’t done any celebratory parties or cakes or whatever and that’s fine with me. I know they are happy we are getting married and that’s more than some brides get!

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Buzzing Beekeeper


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Buzzing Beekeeper

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Post # 7
2594 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Is it possible that your Future Mother-In-Law doesn’t consider it “her place” to plan your shower? Maybe she feels like she doesn’t have an intimate enough relationship with you to do your bridal shower justice–like, she just doesn’t think she’s the right person to do that for you. Is the the kind of woman that would do that? My mother would NEVER plan a bridal shower (think Miranda from SATC), and my Mother-In-Law is a sociable person but she would also never do a bridal shower–I think that to her, it’s kind of…not her style? Like those sort of fussy “women’s occasions” aren’t really my MIL’s sort of cup of tea–she listens to jazz and has friends over for dinner parties before going out to see avant garde theatre. 

What about your MOH? Would she be able to plan one for you? Or, while I understand it’s not exactly a shower, if you’re just bummed out that you’re not going to be sort of the center of attention and like the idea of a party…maybe you and your Fiance should just plan a party–a regular old party and not wedding-related, just to have people over and have fun. No, you won’t get to sit on a throne but you’ll still have a lot of fun and remind yourself that you are indeed, loved. 

If it’s any consolation, I never had a bridal shower either. 

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