(Closed) Would you be honest in this situation?

posted 5 years ago in Career
  • poll: Would you tell her that she dresses inappropriately?
    Yes : (173 votes)
    98 %
    No : (3 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 3
    5955 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2013

    Given that she’s asking, I would be honest with her.  Be as nice as you can of course.

    If she wasn’t asking, I’d say to stay out of it. 

    Post # 4
    5660 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    If she’s asking straight up if she’s dressing appropriately, then you should be polite, but honest. Obviously no one would ever want to ask HR that!

    Just tell her the best rule of thumb is that if you have to question wether you should wear something, then you probably shouldn’t.

    Post # 5
    371 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    @MrsPanda99:  on one hand, I think that if she seeks you out and asks specifically what you think about her career clothes, you should be honest and tell her. She’s obviously questioning it and I think it could really benefit her if she knows that her clothing isn’t appropriate. 


    However, since you aren’t her boss or HR, I guess I would just worry that you telling her that she doesn’t dress appropriately could somehow be turned around on you and get you into trouble. 

    Post # 6
    3076 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2013 - A court...

    Yeesss. You don’t have to say it in a rude way just tell her maybe she could be a bit more professional looking by covering up some…

    Post # 7
    259 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    Phrase it as advice: “You should always dress for the position you want – replicate what your seniors wear” 😉

    Post # 8
    4162 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I think if you approach her privately (closed door, or when no other employees are around) and say it in the nicest way possible and even with a bit of humor, she should know. 

    If it were me, I would say (with a sincere smile) something like “I’m glad you value my opinion so I think if you wore things like longer skirts or button up shirts that covered up this area (while making motions over your chest!) you should be totally fine!”

    Post # 9
    7211 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2015

    @MrsPanda99:  as others have said, if she’s specifically asking she already knows. She may need guidance on what would be appropriate. I just went to a group interview this week and was shocked by what some of the younger ladies were wearing. Putting a jacket over your clubbing dress doesn’t help the fact that I can almost see your vag. 

    Post # 10
    794 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2015 - Backyard Forest

    I would, she obviously is asking for a reason.  Somebody has probably said something to her.

    Just be tactful, but honest – somebody needs to tell her what’s appropriate for work. Give some simple pointers and maybe some store suggestions.

    Post # 11
    600 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2016 - Charleston, SC

    If she’s coming to you asking if her clothing is appropriate or not, I’m sure she’s prepared to hear that she is, in fact, not dressing appropriately. She may already know and just need a final push to recognize it. I don’t think it’s a big deal to tell her to cover up more while being tactful and considerate of her feelings. Maybe try to think of outfits that she’s worn that are closer to appropriate and try to emphasize those styles? Just be polite about it and she should get the hint. If it were me, I wouldn’t mind be a little hurt for a minute and be told that I should change the way I dress in order to advance my career!

    Post # 12
    5271 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2009

    I would be honest with her since she is asking and obviously values your opinion. 

    Also, you can say it tactfully, like instead of saying “your dresses are too short” you can say “I think dresses look more professional when they are right at or 1 inch above the knee” something like that. Be proactive in your response instead of just sounding critcal. 

    Post # 13
    1181 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    @MrsPanda99:  totally be honest. Also reflect her questions a bit and say well why do you think there is a problem with your clothes? Then hear her out and just tell her the truth.

    Do the sandwhich of constructive critism

    Compliment + then the negative + how to fix + something positive again


    I think your an efficient worker and very professional with customers.

    i do find that your professional attire could be improved upon.

    I would suggest being more aware of and be more conservative about exposing your thighs and chest. 

    Agian you are doing a great job and I think you fit in well here…

    Post # 14
    1797 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I think if she has to ask if what she is wearing is inappropriate that deep down she knows that it is. She is asking for your honest opinion, so give it to her for sure. 

    Post # 15
    3671 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @MrsPanda99: Hey lady! I would be honest but word it in the kindest way! “Although you look wonderful everyday I think you would benefit from dressing as your superiors wear. I personally have a few dress rules that I abide by. (you can then list things like: skirts must touch knee or go half an inch above kneww when sitting, shirts must show no cleavage and if they are low cut then there needs to be an undershirt that covers and does not slip, and ect.)” 


    Post # 16
    1830 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2014

    Definitely be honest, but be constructive. Give examples of what she might want to try wearing instead. Don’t bash her dress choices so much as suggest better ones.

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