(Closed) would you be mad if a guest wore this to your wedding?

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

I’d rip her hair out – not really, but I’d definitely make sure she wasn’t in any photos.  I don’t care if the Queen of England designed it, she was an idiot to wear that to someone else’s wedding.  

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

oh my

Post # 5
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Sugar bee

That’s not really appropriate…  was it a mistake?  Or was the guest trying to be the center of attention?

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

That is not appropriate.  I would be peeved.  I hope that I would be gracious to my guest too, but I would never forget it!

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I wouldn’t be mad. I would just think the guest is friggin clueless. Obviously that guest isn’t married because they would understand that is something you DON’T do. 

I am glad the bride took the high road. That is so not something a bride should sweat over on her day- something the guests should/could handle themselves.  

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

I hope the guest is clueless and not doing it on purpose.

It’s not appropriate!!! I won’t not waste energy to be mad on my wedding day, but I would probably find out what the deal is later on and let the girl know that’s wrong.

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

it could be worse i suppose…… she could have also been carrying a bunch of flowers with a posse of flowergirls trailing behind her 

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010 - Jewel Box in Forest Park and Windows on Washington

Definitely not appropriate.  But what can you really do?  Ask her to leave.  Every bride hopes that her guests have enough knowledge and etiquette to know what to wear to a wedding!

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

I don’t see too much wrong with that dress, it’s just a dress…unless your dress is designed very similar to that one, it’s just a dress.  Some people wear non-white dresses as the bride.  The guest obvioulsly want to dress up, and that’s what she had in her closet.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 1990

Even as clueless as I am with etiquette sometimes, its obvious you shouldn’t wear what is basically a wedding gown to someone else’s wedding. Very inappropriate!

I probably wouldn’t even notice at my own wedding but its definitely a reason to be annoyed.

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Um yeah, I just might have accidentally spilled something on her (maybe red wine?) on her if she was at my wedding. 

Post # 14
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Sugar bee

Wow!  Another thread was started not long ago.  I didn’t find that dress to be out of line (even though most people did.)  However this one is very inappropriate.  It looks like an ivory wedding dress.  Hopefully the bride’s dress looked very different.

The fact that the guest kept saying it’s Vera Wang, doesn’t sit well with me.  It comes across like she was trying to be the center of attention.  How upscale was this wedding?  Were others wearing Vera Wang and she was trying to fit in?  ("I hope my boyfriend’s snooty family will like me now.")  Did the bride even have an expensive designer gown?

Even if this wedding was ultra formal and this was the only floor length gown this girl owned, I would say she should buy something inexpensive, or borrow something. 

Post # 15
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

Yeah that dress is out of line….I’d be pretty pissed. I wonder like other posters said if she wanted to be the centre of attention and try to "out do" the bride in some way, esp if she kept telling people it was Vera Wang. I give the bride props for taking the high road on this one because I know I coulnd’t have.

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I would be furious. I’m curious to know the circumstances surrounding her decision to wear that.  Personally, I wouldn’t be able to keep my mouth shut if a guest showed up to my wedding wearing that. Especially if the wine was flowing. The good thing is, I know my close friends and I know they would probably handle it before I had the chance. Wearing white to a wedding is never OK. Period.

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