(Closed) would you be mad if a guest wore this to your wedding?

posted 12 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 17
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

Whoa.  That’s pretty crazy.  How formal was the wedding?  If it was black tie, and she’s not someone who gets dressed up a lot, maybe she was so proud of herself for finding a Vera Wang that she didn’t consider how much it looked like a wedding gown.  Some people are just clueless that way.

Post # 18
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Wow. Depending on who the guest was (ok maybe not) i probably would have said something TO HER FACE about it…..hmmmmm. People are SO dumb! I swear! Anything with white is out, c’mon people. Do not do it unless you want to look like an idiot.

Post # 19
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

ejs4y8, I completely agree!  I don’t get why anyone would wear white to a wedding — at best, you look clueless, at worst you look selfish, attention-grubbing, and/or bitter.  Even if you think the rule is stupid and you shouldn’t have to follow it, why risk upsetting the bride and making a fool out of yourself?  Doesn’t seem worth it to me.

Post # 20
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Um…the horrification level here would be, on a scale of 1-10, a 12.

Post # 21
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

horrible….

I think a basic rule of thumb is dont wear something white, or what resembles a wedding dress.

I just bought this $300 white dress a couple weeks ago and have been dying to wear it. This Saturday I had a wedding to go to and dispite how much I wanted to wear it, I knew I couldnt! – RESPECT!

Post # 22
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

What????? That’s ridiculous!

Post # 23
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Blushing bee

Holy Moley!!  Whenever I see a post titled like yours, I already start laughing in anticipation.  I am constantly baffled by the level of some people’s cluelessness.  If I were the bride, I think I might do the opposite of people’s suggestions— I’d slap one of the bridemaid’s bouquet in her hand and take a picture of just the two of us.  I wonder if she’d get the message then? lol!  😀

Post # 24
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I would definitely think that was appropriate, and as the calculating bitch that I can be when cornered, I would probably make sure that every guest had an opportunity to make fun of this person for being so clueless.  On a rare occasion, I pull out my specialized skill of mass scorn.  I might even make a quip about it in the toasts…lol

Wow.   

Post # 25
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

HAHAHAHA I think it’s funny

Vera Wang shwang we all know Vera Wang designs wedding gowns

Post # 26
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

wow! it actually looks like a wedding dress I tried on when I initially wanted a low key wedding (and before family got involved ).  I would have been pissed, especially since I am wearing ivory! 

Post # 27
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

I think the ONLY time that this could possibly be appropriate is if she were having a "black & white" wedding like my MOH’s bratty sister-in-law had.  She expected all of her guests to wear black, white, or a combination of the two.  Basically, she expected people to go out and buy something to wear if they didn’t have a monochromatic closet.  She was very bossy about clothing choices with the entire extended family – basically their ensemble required her approval.  In my opinion, SHE would have deserved to have someone wear this dress to her wedding.

Post # 28
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

I’d approach her differently..I’d walk up IN FRONT OF LARGE AMOUNT OF PEOPLE and say.."Wow it looks like there’s two brides here..are you getting married too today  Wanna split the cost of MY reception?  You can use the flowers on the table for a  bouquet".

 

Post # 29
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

Um wow.  I’m pretty sure that’s a wedding dress.

Post # 30
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I would be incredulous.  I’m pretty sure I’d walk over and say something like "wow, that’s such a beautiful dress!  It looks a lot like the wedding dresses I tried on" or something along those lines, just to see how red she turned when actually called out for wearing a wedding dress.  

I might also be tempted to say something about how we weren’t planning on doing a bouquet toss, but it seems clear that she wants to catch it.  Good for the bride for being so gracious!

Post # 31
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2008

Looks like I’m in the minority here, but I wouldn’t care if a guest wore that to my wedding, as long as she felt comfortable and beautiful in the dress.  I mean, I would definitely NEVER wear white to another person’s wedding, since I know it’s a big deal to a lot of brides, but I honestly wouldn’t care if someone else wore a white dress to mine.

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