(Closed) would you be mad if a guest wore this to your wedding?

posted 12 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 32
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

jhphi, I’d kind of agree (I don’t like the idea of at a wedding PERIOD) if it were a sundress or separates or something, but that’s clearly a wedding dress, and that’s just entirely inappropriate.

Post # 33
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

@bellenga – ha ha cut-throat! I love it! LOVE IT!

Post # 34
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Yes!!!!!!!!!!! I would for sure have security escort her out! <– just kidding, haha.

For sure I woud be very very upset. Would I let it ruin my wedding? No. Would I confront her? Probably not, I don’t like confrontations … unless she was being obnoxious and begging for it.

I would most likely have my fiance handle the situation, like with all the sticky situations… he smoothes things over so much better than I do. It’s like an artform.

I already let my Future-mil and most of fiances side of the family know that I don’t approve of them wearing ivory or white. It’s weird. My family knows this!

Post # 35
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

No, I wouldn’t say anything.  Anyone who shows up at someone else’s wedding wearing a wedding dress probably wouldn’t have gotten the hint anyway.  The thing is, any guest who showed up in an outfit like this is only intentionally calling attention to themselves, except its the wrong kind.

Post # 36
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

That is a wedding dress. There is nothing else it could be. I have been to countless formal events in my life and seen women wearing every type of formal outfit you could imagine (spanning multiple cultures), and the ONLY time I have EVER seen ANYONE wearing a dress specifically like that – ivory/white, long, elaborate, no color whatsoever, possessing a train – was when she was a) getting married or b) making her debut (or something similar). And this wasn’t a debut event. That isn’t a short white eyelet sundress with a big colored sash that we’re talking about; I don’t think any sensible bride would care if someone else turned up in that outfit. That is a wedding dress.

Of course, all you really need is a few minutes in Photoshop to change the color of the dress in any photos that were taken. 🙂 And I think that the guests would have *no* trouble telling the real bride apart from the fake one. But c’mon, Vera Wang is known by everyone with two X chromosomes to be a maker of couture wedding dresses (unlike, say, Betsey Johnston).

I wonder if anyone considered slipping one of the vendors a few $20s in return for going up to the fake bride and asking, in an increasingly obnoxious manner, where the rest of his payment was, saying, "Oh, you can’t tell me you’re not the bride! Who would be wearing a wedding dress to a wedding if she weren’t a bride?" 

Would *I* be upset? Nah. Happy brides stand out of the crowd, and I will be a happy bride. But that person would go on my list of "apparent friends who do not have my best interests at heart." It’s not a white suit. It’s not a little white dress with colored beading. It’s not a white sundress with a poufy circle skirt. It’s a wedding dress. 

Post # 37
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2021

I would think it was odd, but I wouldn’t let it get to me. It’s just a dress and it would be our day to have a great time.                                    

Post # 38
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

WOW some people!

Post # 39
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Maybe she wanted to wear her wedding dress again… err to another person’s wedding

Post # 40
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

It is certainly not in good taste to wear a dress like that to a wedding! If it isn’t a wedding gown, it is still looks like one- and therefore definitely should be avoided by any non-bride. However, I don’t think I’d be mad, per se, if someone wore it to my wedding (unless it happened to be someone who I thought was purposefully doing it to be rude). But I don’t think I could avoid being a little annoyed at that person, even if they weren’t doing it to be malicious!

Post # 41
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I would be incredibly perturbed. If that guest would have told me it was Vera Wang, I would have said, "Well Vera Wang would have enough class not to wear that dress to a wedding." I might have even considered having the DJ call her out.

Post # 42
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I think that I would be furious.  I have to say that I may not say something that day but I eventually would have.

Post # 43
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

Did the she realize that she was a GUEST at a WEDDING which WAS NOT her own??? WTF??  What a fruit!

Post # 44
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

That is sooooooo not OK. I would have my MoH "accidentally" spill red wine on her, no question about it. She’d do it, too. She’s a troublemaker 🙂 Then I could graciously offer her some club soda and go along my merry way as the happy, courteous bride.

Post # 45
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Honestly, I probably would have just cried. And then requested that Kittyachi spill red wine on her 🙂

Post # 46
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Lillindy– I wouldn’t have spilled something on her but I would have made sure someone in the room did. Ooops!!

Wow!!

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