(Closed) Would you be mad if a guest wore this?

posted 9 years ago in Beehive
  • poll: Would you be upset?
    Yep- too much for a guest to wear : (37 votes)
    43 %
    Nope- it's fine : (43 votes)
    49 %
    Other- I'll explain : (7 votes)
    8 %
  • Post # 3
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    14183 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    The fact that she had to send you an email to ask your advice is enough.

    I certainly would never wear it. IMO, I just never ever ever wear anything remotely white (the little bit of decoration in the corner isn’t enough) and while I know that nobody will possibly think your mother is the bride, surely she has something else? 

    I would suggest she find something else. A brown pashmina helps, but i doubt she’ll wear it all night. Still, because MOST guests are really sensitive to someone else wearing white to a wedding, you don’t want anyone gossiping about your mom, do you? 

    Post # 4
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    473 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    It’s close enough to questionable that I wouldn’t wear it if I were her.

    Even if she does have a brown pashmina, her dress is still pretty white with very little of the other colors.  If that pattern were all over it, it’d be different.

    I’d personally be a little put off if someone wore this… In my opinion, I think it’s a little rude to wear anything that is a white or cream to a wedding.

    Post # 5
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    2476 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    It’s a cute dress (creme-colored?)… And it’s tea-length right?  Cute little flower design on the bottom.  I think it’s totally fine, but others will disagree I’m sure.

    I’d be totally fine with someone wearing this to my wedding… but your mom may want to change it if your cousin is a bridezilla, LOL!  🙂 

    Post # 6
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    1266 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2009

    @DDUBZ – I totally actually agree with you, I voted that it was fine. its just a little tea-length dress, nothing remotely bridal, its quite and quaint and I wish my Future Mother-In-Law would wear something that cute!

    But I do agree, it can be a touchy subject so its uptimatly up to you, if you think its not appropriate then maybe she should change it. I think it would be super cute with the brown pashmina, stylin!

    Post # 7
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    1018 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2010

    It doesn’t seem like a big deal to some people, but on the other hand some people are REALLY sensitive about anyone wearing white (or cream, or off-white) to a wedding but the bride. In My Humble Opinion it’d be safer for everyone to stick to other colors! If you have to ask, it’s probably because you know SOMEbody might be offended.

    Post # 8
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    45 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: December 1969

    I think the bottom part is fine, but I think the slinky, ivory, spaghetti-strap top is a bit inappropriate for a wedding — and to be honest, I think it’s not really age-appropriate dressing for a mom at all.  I wouldn’t be upset if someone wore it to my wedding, but (even if I were a guest at someone else’s wedding) I’d think it looked a little bit desperate (especially on someone past their early twenties).

    I think the dress would look pretty and be totally appropriate, though, if it was paired with a cute cardigan or a little jacket on top.  If it’s an outdoor daytime event, maybe just a little short-sleeved crocheted shrug in green or brown.  If it’s a super-formal evening affair, maybe something more like a sheer jacket.

    Post # 10
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    345 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I think that with the brown pashmina its fine (or a non-white cardigan).  But! I know others may feel differently.

    Post # 11
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    776 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I think it depends, if it were a beach wedding and the bride herself was dress casually in a white dress I would maybe be slightly offended. But if not then I say it totaly fine.

    Post # 12
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    275 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2009

    I think its fine!  If she’s worried about it, could she ask the bride’s mom – who I assume is her sister or SIL? 

    Post # 13
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    1356 posts
    Bumble bee

    I think it’s on the edge, but the brown pashmina would probably make it fine. I wore a cream dress to my future-sister-in-law’s wedding and I’m still kicking myself for it. I didn’t even think about it at the time. I hate seeing those pictures. So if she’s comfortable wearing it, I think it’s fine. But she doesn’t want to be like me and regret it. I doubt the bride will even notice. 🙂

    Post # 14
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    45 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: December 1969

    Wow, I definitely didn’t mean to imply that your mother was desperate, or anything else about her character.  My comments were only directed at the color and style of the dress.  Obviously it’s very difficult to assess the fit of the dress when it’s on the hanger, not on the person.  

    My comment was only meant to answer your question — I do think that, unless it was paired with a cardigan or non-white top, the color and style of the dress are inappropriate for a wedding.  Sorry to have offended you.

    Post # 15
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    2640 posts
    Sugar bee

    I think it’s fine.  The only way I’d shy form it is if the wedding is casual enough that the bride is wearing a very siilar stylr wedding dress (even if floor length.)  I just don’t see this dress as taking any attention away from the bride.  Your mom isn’t even in any spot light.  She’s not a MOB or MOG.

    While I disagree that spaghetti straps are out if you older than your early twenties, I would recommend a wrap or jacket for someone who’s probably in her fifties.  And by the time dancing starts, if she gets hot, or wants to lose the jacket, I think it would be fine by that point.

    Post # 16
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I voted no. I stand by the no mostly white/ivory/cream rule. I agree with whoever said that if the pattern was all over that it would be fine, but as it stands I vote no. It’s super cute, though! She should wear it for a summer night on the town.

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