Post # 1
…if your mom didn’t offer you her wedding gown?
Personally, I’m not, since my mom’s dress is very,very 80’s, replete with poofy/lacy full sleeves and high neck/cut. I just find it funny that she hasn’t even mentioned it (she tried to get my sister to wear it in ’06, but it wasn’t a corset back which is what she[sister] was looking for), but then again, I think my mom is pretty clueless some days and probably hasn’t even realized that we’re planning a wedding (even though she’s been told a number of times).
So how about you bees? Would you be heart broken if your mom didn’t offer you her dress or relieved?
Post # 3
I might have been since I altered my mom’s dress and wore it. So had she never offered it to me, I would’ve never known it’s potential!
Post # 4
Considering I wore my mom’s dress in sixth grade, I think I’m relieved since I wouldn’t fit into it anymore :).
In your case, I might be a tad bit offended if she had offered it to my sister and not me, depending on what I thought her reasons were. If I thought she just assumed I wouldn’t want it because sis didn’t, or if she just didn’t think about it, I wouldn’t be offended at all [not implying you were offended, just trying to imagine if I could fit into mum’s dress!]
Post # 5
My mother tried to force a similar design onto me. She had a very flowy, off-the-shoulder, tiered wedding gown (very 70s earth-child design) and insisted I should wear something similar. No thanks…it’s not me. My Gran would have loved for me to wear her gown, but it was way too small and I didn’t want to try to alter it. 🙁
Post # 6
I was a bit relieved. My mom wore a white suit for her wedding. She looked beautiful, but it’s not my thing!
Post # 7
I’m so glad she didnt haha! just so i wouldnt have to say no to her face. dont get me wrong, it was a beautiful dress, in 1973! though, im saving mine for my daughter – i would never be offended if she didnt wear it but styles come back and you just never know. maybe she could alter it into something more fitting for the times.
Post # 8
My Mom borrowed her dress from her cousin. It was actually very understated and pretty. Although, if she still had it, and it was in good condition, I bet my sister would have had it altered to wear, and my sister is tiny, so I don’t think it would have made it to me.
Post # 10
Both of my mom’s wedding dresses are not my style, so I was actually quite relieved she didn’t offer them to me
Post # 11
i wish my mom still had hers, with some good alterations I would have loved to wear it but I think she probably burned it haha (her and my dad are divorced and she hates him)
Post # 12
hahha no worries, some days I just have no idea what my mom is thinking.
I am with you there, I don’t think I would have the heart to outright say no if she had offered it.
Post # 14
@missmouse29:No. My mom and I are so different with style and size. I’m 5’7 and a size 6 and when my mom was my age she was 100 lbs.
Post # 15
I once tried on my mom’s dress for fun, but never would wear it to marry in. It’s very 1970s with a high neck. Just not my thing.
She didn’t offer; I think she donated it a few years back.
Post # 16
Nope – was offended at all that my mom didn’t offer. Besides I wouldn’t have been able to fit in it even if she had!
I honestly think that it should go the other way around. Moms should recognize that their daughters are independent women with their own style and ideas for their wedding dress and shouldn’t offer their own dresses to them. If a daughter is interested in her mother’s dress, she can ask her mother about it. But pressure from moms to wear their dresses isn’t appropriate, IMO.