(Closed) Would you be offended…

posted 7 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper

I might have been since I altered my mom’s dress and wore it. So had she never offered it to me, I would’ve never known it’s potential!

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

Considering I wore my mom’s dress in sixth grade, I think I’m relieved since I wouldn’t fit into it anymore :).

In your case, I might be a tad bit offended if she had offered it to my sister and not me, depending on what I thought her reasons were. If I thought she just assumed I wouldn’t want it because sis didn’t, or if she just didn’t think about it, I wouldn’t be offended at all [not implying you were offended, just trying to imagine if I could fit into mum’s dress!]

 

 

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

My mother tried to force a similar design onto me. She had a very flowy, off-the-shoulder, tiered wedding gown (very 70s earth-child design) and insisted I should wear something similar. No thanks…it’s not me. My Gran would have loved for me to wear her gown, but it was way too small and I didn’t want to try to alter it. 🙁

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I was a bit relieved. My mom wore a white suit for her wedding. She looked beautiful, but it’s not my thing!

Post # 7
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

I’m so glad she didnt haha! just so i wouldnt have to say no to her face. dont get me wrong, it was a beautiful dress, in 1973! though, im saving mine for my daughter – i would never be offended if she didnt wear it but styles come back and you just never know. maybe she could alter it into something more fitting for the times.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

My Mom borrowed her dress from her cousin.  It was actually very understated and pretty.  Although, if she still had it, and it was in good condition, I bet my sister would have had it altered to wear, and my sister is tiny, so I don’t think it would have made it to me.

 

Post # 9
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Honey bee

not at all.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Both of my mom’s wedding dresses are not my style, so I was actually quite relieved she didn’t offer them to me

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

i wish my mom still had hers, with some good alterations I would have loved to wear it but I think she probably burned it haha (her and my dad are divorced and she hates him)

Post # 13
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Nope not at all

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee

@missmouse29:No. My mom and I are so different with style and size. I’m 5’7 and a size 6 and when my mom was my age she was 100 lbs.  

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I once tried on my mom’s dress for fun, but never would wear it to marry in. It’s very 1970s with a high neck. Just not my thing.  

She didn’t offer; I think she donated it a few years back.

Post # 16
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

Nope – was offended at all that my mom didn’t offer.  Besides I wouldn’t have been able to fit in it even if she had!

I honestly think that it should go the other way around.  Moms should recognize that their daughters are independent women with their own style and ideas for their wedding dress and shouldn’t offer their own dresses to them.  If a daughter is interested in her mother’s dress, she can ask her mother about it.  But pressure from moms to wear their dresses isn’t appropriate, IMO.

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