(Closed) Would you be offended…

posted 9 years ago in Dress
Post # 32
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I wouldn’t be offended.  In fact, I was the one that wanted to figure out a way to incorporate her dress into something to do with the day.  I was thinking of maybe using a piece to wrap my bouquet or something.  She didn’t preserve hers so it’s not in the best shape anyways.

Post # 33
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Doesn’t bother me that she didn’t offer her wedding dress.  I’m sure if I really wanted it and I asked, she’d give it to me in a heartbeat.  But that being said, it’s not really my style.  She looked wonderful in it though. 🙂

Post # 34
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1927 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Not at all. She no longer has it but if she did I still wouldn’t be upset if she didn’t offer.

Post # 35
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29 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2011

@missmouse29: Sounds like you’re having a similar engagement experience as I am! It’s crossed my mind to update my mom’s dress (also very loudly 80’s), but she hasn’t even brought it up. And that, too, is b/c she is out of the loop on wedding planning. It still hasn’t sunk in for her that the wedding is only 4 months away! To answer your question, no, I wasn’t offended. I just figured she never thought of it b/c she is absent-minded, and also b/c it’s the norm for girls to get their own wedding dress. Maybe your mom hasn’t suggested it to you b/c she thinks you, like your sister, wouldn’t want to be put in that position to have to turn down an heirloom in order to get the dress of your dreams.

Post # 36
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

She probably just assumed you wouldn’t wear it anyway.  My parents got married at the JOP.  From what I remember (I was there) she wore a navy blue skirt suit complete with shoulder pads.  I doubt she even still has it.

Post # 37
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

My mom and dad got married in 1971 in their back yard, so my mom’s dress was very casual. My grandma made it, and its quite lovely (its lace and they hand dyed it with tea leaves to give it a vintage look!) and honestly I would love to have it to wear to other events, but it wouldn’t have been appropriate for my wedding. To be honest, I’m not sure if she still has it. :-/

Post # 38
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7295 posts
Busy Beekeeper

i am not sure if my mom has her dress still, but she has offered me jewelery to wear on the day of and even a band to use as my wedding band! i wish she wouldn’t though because we have totally different taste and i feel bad saying no thanks all the time.

Post # 39
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1432 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@Theresa90405: I don’t have a pic here on my computer.  They have a wedding album that I’d like to scan, so maybe after I’m engaged I’ll get her to do that for me 🙂  I’ll let you know when I do!

It’s similar to this dress I found online, except the neck is a boatneck and the sleeves are a tad bit longer:

Post # 40
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265 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I believe my mom’s last wedding dress consisted of a bathing suit and a coverup skirt… so her offering it to me would be slightly odd, lol.

Post # 41
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1037 posts
Bumble bee

@missmouse29: Would completely depend on what it looked like lol.  If it was hideous then I would be relived.

Post # 42
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4753 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

LOL hell no, because I don’t want to have to refuse it. I want the option of going, trying on and buying my own dress so if she offered I’d be like UMMMMMMMMMMMMMM, errrrrrrrrrrrrrr, thanks, but no thanks!

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