(Closed) Would you be offended?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Honey bee

I would be offended

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

If a person considers themself in a relationship, they get to bring their significant other.  I don’t know what ‘stable’ means, but it sounds like you may be judging your friends’ relationships, which should not happen.  They get to bring the sig.oth. even if you have never met him or her.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@cant.wait.to.be.mrs.d: 

It would depend on the circumstances whether or not I would be offended. If we had been dating for a period of time, the B&G had met him, and other people in a similar situation had been extended +1s, then, yes, I would be offended. It would also bother me if I had to travel Out of Town for a wedding alone and was not allowed to bring a guest. If none of the above were true, I would understand the situation.

Either way, I probably wouldn’t say anything and would just attend if it were a close friend/family wedding.

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Is she in a relationship?  Or is she truly single?  We are doing +1’s for everyone in a relationship… doesn’t matter if we know the person or not, and it’s not our job to make a judgement about how “serious” someone else’s relationship is.  Out of our TRULY single (as of when the invitations go out) guests, we will only be offering +1’s to those who might not know many other people or people from out of town who will be traveling to be at our wedding.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I wouldn’t be offended as long as +1s aren’t randomly assigned.  For example, if the rule is that the couple has to be married or living together, then I’ll totally understand not getting a +1 as a single.  But if you’re letting other singles get them but not me, then yeah, I’d be offended.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Actually, yes.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Married, engaged or living together was my cut off. If they’d been dating for over a year, they also got an invite.  (hey! I didn’t live with my Darling Husband before marriage, but we dated for years!)

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

haha address the invite to her and her husband then!

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

If you’re following rules and treating everyone the same with +1s I think it’s fine, as long as she’ll know other people at the wedding.

Post # 11
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@cant.wait.to.be.mrs.d:  Are she and her husband separated/in the process of divorcing? Or is this her “man on the side”?

If it’s the former, then I feel like you need to let her bring him, if it’s the latter then I’d say she doesn’t get a plus one for her boy toy.

Post # 11
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

Double post

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

Still married as in, separated and pending divorce but it just isn’t final? I don’t see how that’s inappropriate, personally.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

If you’re following rules and treating everyone the same with +1s I think it’s fine, as long as she’ll know other people at the wedding.

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