Post # 1
Hey bees, I need some help.
Fiance and I are having a destination wedding next June in Mexico (yay!)
We weren’t planning on having a registry, all we really want is for friends and family to come celebrate with us if they can. That in itself is gift enough! I’ve had a few people say we should register for at least anew things for a few reasons: 1) not all family and friends can make it to Mexico and they may want to give us something 2) we are having a small BBQ reception back home(I was told even if we say no gifts some people will still give them) 3) most people prefer to know what a couple might want, should they want to give us something. Personally, I’m thinking if someone wanted to gift us something, I’d like it to be something useful to us. When I give gifts I like to make sure it’s useful/wanted by that person, so it’s not a waste.
Would you be offended if we were to register and post the link on our wedding website? We would of course make it very clear that gifts are NOT expected and that no one should feel obligated, we just want to spend time with everyone whether it be in Mexico or the BBQ. Also note, we wouldn’t advertise the registry if we did do one, it would just be a link somewhere on the website.
Thanks in advance
Post # 3
I think the registry is a good idea for those who want to send you something or bring something to the BBQ. I like that you won’t advertise it, people can either stumble upon it or if they ask you you can explain to them where you’re registered. It can be kept very small and simple if you want, but I don’t think people would be offended if it wasn’t.
Post # 4
No, I wouldn’t be offended and in fact did this on our website (it was a section of the website format template). I have yet to see a wedding website that didn’t have the registry details.
The whole purpose of a wedding website is to provide the guests (and anyone else that is interested) with updates and details of your wedding. This of course includes the registry details.
Post # 5
Nope not offended – I think this is a pretty normal occurance.
Post # 6
I feel greedy at just the thought of registering (I don’t like to ask for things).
I think it has more to do with the fact that we’re already asking people to spend a lot on the wedding in travel expenses and I didn’t want to come across rude or greedy.
I’ll just keep it to a small registry with nothing crazy 🙂
Anyone know of good place to register in Canada?
Post # 7
I think it’s fine to register even if you are having a DW! And I don’t think you need to say anything about not expecting gifts or whatnot. You can put a link on your website and if people ask you can tell them where you are registered. I would just make sure you have a good variety of price points and keep it at the smaller end. It might look greedy if you had a 200 item registry but only 30 guests or if everything was over $100.
Post # 8
- Wedding: February 2013 - Mansion House at the MD Zoo
I think it’s fine. Or register but don’t put it on the website, and just tell people if they ask. Let your families and BMs know too so they can let people know if asked…. Kinda like what people did before the internet. 🙂
Post # 9
I think its like pp have said not everyone will be able to attend but may still want to bless your marriage with a gift.
Post # 10
We had the same exact situation as you and had a registry. Most of our guests didn’t attend and although my family just gives money, DH’s family wanted options.
One thing to think of is if you’re having a bridal shower. All my shower gifts came from our registry.
Post # 11
I think it’s fine, but I wouldn’t put it on the website. If people ask, you can let your close family (ie, moms with big mouths) know where you’re registered so they can pass the word along to anyone who might be wondering, or if people ask you directly you can let them know. Putting it on the website, no matter what you say along with it, will make it sorta look like you’re trolling for gifts, even if that’s not the intent.
Post # 12
We had a Destination Wedding in Mexico and had a registry also. We put a link to it on our wedding website as well. We really didn’t get many gifts and didn’t really expect or care if we got any. We just registered to make it easy for people who wanted to buy a gift for us. Actually we only got 3 gifts from the registry!! I think it’s a good idea to register because some people will want to get you something and have it shipped to your house.
I agree with pp’s. We had lots of variety on ours. Small things like a new garlic press, and just little things here and there.
Post # 13
I think it’s great! Registries make life easier for everyone involved :).