(Closed) Would you be offended?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Would you be offended if you were invited to a DW and they had a registry?
    No, as long as it was subtle and gifts were not expected : (45 votes)
    40 %
    No, not offended at all : (63 votes)
    56 %
    Yes, don't do it. : (5 votes)
    4 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    3265 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    I think the registry is a good idea for those who want to send you something or bring something to the BBQ. I like that you won’t advertise it, people can either stumble upon it or if they ask you you can explain to them where you’re registered. It can be kept very small and simple if you want, but I don’t think people would be offended if it wasn’t.

    Post # 4
    Hostess
    11168 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper

     No, I wouldn’t be offended and in fact did this on our website (it was a section of the website format template). I have yet to see a wedding website that didn’t have the registry details.

    The whole purpose of a wedding website is to provide the guests (and anyone else that is interested) with updates and details of your wedding. This of course includes the registry details.

    Post # 5
    Member
    5273 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2009

    Nope not offended – I think this is a pretty normal occurance. 

    Post # 7
    Member
    2708 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I think it’s fine to register even if you are having a DW!  And I don’t think you need to say anything about not expecting gifts or whatnot.  You can put a link on your website and if people ask you can tell them where you are registered.  I would just make sure you have a good variety of price points and keep it at the smaller end.  It might look greedy if you had a 200 item registry but only 30 guests or if everything was over $100.

    Post # 8
    Member
    817 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2013 - Mansion House at the MD Zoo

    I think it’s fine. Or register but don’t put it on the website, and just tell people if they ask. Let your families and BMs know too so they can let people know if asked…. Kinda like what people did before the internet. 🙂

    Post # 9
    Member
    5065 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2014

    I think its like pp have said not everyone will be able to attend but may still want to bless your marriage with a gift.

    Post # 10
    Member
    2388 posts
    Buzzing bee

    We had the same exact situation as you and had a registry. Most of our guests didn’t attend and although my family just gives money, DH’s family wanted options. 

    One thing to think of is if you’re having a bridal shower. All my shower gifts came from our registry.

    Post # 11
    Member
    1093 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I think it’s fine, but I wouldn’t put it on the website.  If people ask, you can let your close family (ie, moms with big mouths) know where you’re registered so they can pass the word along to anyone who might be wondering, or if people ask you directly you can let them know.  Putting it on the website, no matter what you say along with it, will make it sorta look like you’re trolling for gifts, even if that’s not the intent.

    Post # 12
    Member
    501 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    We had a Destination Wedding in Mexico and had a registry also. We put a link to it on our wedding website as well. We really didn’t get many gifts and didn’t really expect or care if we got any. We just registered to make it easy for people who wanted to buy a gift for us. Actually we only got 3 gifts from the registry!! I think it’s a good idea to register because some people will want to get you something and have it shipped to your house.

    I agree with pp’s. We had lots of variety on ours. Small things like a new garlic press, and just little things here and there.

    Post # 13
    Member
    6394 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I think it’s great! Registries make life easier for everyone involved :).

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