(Closed) would you be offended?

posted 6 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

100% rude! No one in my extended family has asked the cost of my e-ring. All they said was how beautiful of a job my fiance did in picking out my ring all by himself.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I don’t think I’d be offended-he obviously thinks you have a very valuable ring…take it as a compliment. I think it’s odd he thought they were “ok” questions to ask, but sometimes guys are dumb!

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2015

I’d be so livid!! That is so rude of him! It’s one of those big no,no’s to ask the price of an engagement ring, I think it’s up there with asking someone how much their salary is! 

I think it’s also the fact that he hasn’t asked him beforehand. It’s one of those things you should do when you first meet someone, and if you haven’t seen them for a while ask them if they’re still in the same job.

You’ll find that a lot of people are really rude and blunt about rings. The same thing happened to me with a “friend” asking me the price. I told her I didn’t know (I don’t know the exact price he paid, but I have an idea) and I asked her why it matters. She also asked in a sneakier way another time, asking the clarity, carat size, weight of the gold, jeweler etc. SO OBVIOUS haha Tongue Out She also started telling me about her ring (she wasn’t even engaged, in a serious relationship, and the ring didn’t exist) and about how her mother was buying her a 3 carat engagement ring with 24k gold blah blah bullshit blah.

Don’t worry about your uncle. He might just be insecure/jealous/rude. Maybe he has some serious ring envy going on! Tongue Out

Post # 6
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Nope. Wouldn’t bother me at all.

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

I wouldn’t want to tell someone how much my ring was but it wouldn’t really offend me if a family member asked that question after looking at my ring.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee

I would def be offended. What was he trying to say? Totally ridiculous questions In My Humble Opinion.

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

It wouldn’t bother me as I wouldn’t feel obligated to answer the question. I would probably say something like ” we’ll now, that isn’t any of your business.” i would then move on to speak with someone else. Just because someone has the nerve to ask doesn’t mean you have to supply an answer.

Post # 12
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Newbee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I wouldn’t be offended by asking what fh does for a living, but would be very taken back by asking the value of any piece of jewelry, not just my ering. What fh spends on me or anything else for that matter, is no concern to anyone else. I would respond with, it doesn’t concern me what the appraisal of it is, I am just thrilled to be his girl 😉

Post # 13
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2013

It’s rude. 

In my case, I actually was the one who had to figure out how much he spent and when I discovered the cost, the first thought was insuring it and where he got the money. We’ve been together for years and I’m familiar with his income. I asked and he told me his parents helped to get the ring and he was paying them back in smaller payments. I was glad to hear that 1. He didn’t just shell out a ton of money and 2. this was a blessing from his parents that they were 100% supporting our marriage. 

But this is as far as the question about cost really needed to go. No one else needs to know the cost or anything more than how much you love it. Some people just don’t know boundaries. 

Post # 14
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Bumble bee

Whether he meant it as “damn, that’s a huge rock” or “why is it so cheap?” it’s still kinda rude for him to ask about that stuff, especially how much the cost. To me, it’s like asking a woman her age or what she weighs- you just don’t do it. Not only that, but it is absolutely none of his business- and I’d have probably told him that instead of answering any of his questions. But maybe I’m just a little irritable right now.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I’d be offended, but it sounds like your uncle was just curious, and thought being honest would have been a compliment or a kudos to your Fiance. Unless he said all of that sneeringly.

Post # 16
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

@bella731:  Is your ring quite large? If it is on the bigger side, I would take it as a compliment. Yeah it’s not the best way to word a compliment, but maybe that’s what he was aiming for.

If it’s on the small side then yes I would think it was a very rude comment and even a “clueless male” should know better.

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