(Closed) Would you be offended?

posted 4 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 2
8598 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Yep I’d be offended. I’d probably respond that it was none of her business and black hole the rest of her message, but that’s me.

Post # 3
147 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

it’s just a little weird.  i wouldn’t be offended i guess, and i wouldn’t bother bringing it up again, but i just wouldn’t go out of my way to invite her into my life or life events (it sounds like you and your SO are not anyway).

i mean, you may have overreacted (i don’t know how you reacted other than thinking it’s weird) — but she was definitely being a little creepy/weird/pushy about the whole thing. 


it is what it is. but yeah, arms length sounds best.

Post # 4
6530 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

Yorkshirerose1991:  no, i would be pretty pissed. I dont know what type of relationship you have with her, if you feel comfortable mentioning something if it should come up, then do so. I would keep it short And then drop it.

I am curious to know who told her and how did she get it out of that person. I am assuming in a really sneaky way. 

Post # 5
6830 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Well she had a 50/50 chance of figuring out the sex. A baby is either a boy or girl, so it isn’t that hard to figure out/guess.  Would I be offended no, again because a baby can be one or the other, I think you are over reacting a wee bit.  Believe me there are bigger hills to die on than this, let it roll of your back and go getting ready for your baby

Post # 6
113 posts
Blushing bee

I think I’d feel a little more… invaded? Than pissed.

Like, your not someone we see very often, your not important enough for us to personally phone you or even drop a text and tell you we’re expecting. And because we don’t offer information straight up you go sniffing around trying to find out what it is you want to know. Just abit of a wierdo.

My friends little sister, who I have on facebook, is expecting. I don’t speek to the sister ever really. When she got pregnant the sister I’m friends with told me over the phone what shes expecting and the name of the baby, and mentioned that aside from immediate family, noone knew. I never told the little sister I knew, didn’t particuarly care either. I think shed be abit wierded out if I started telling her I knew what she was having and what shes going to call them..

some people eh? So long as she keeps her trap shut it’s fine.

Post # 8
9114 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

I’d be irritated, but not offended. I’d question her determination. 

Post # 10
2190 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I would have sent back a sarcastic remark like, “well you have a 50/50 shot, so think whatever you want”

Post # 11
7683 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Yorkshirerose1991:  Based on that information, I don’t think she knows, I think she’s just guessing. Perhaps even it’s a deliberate ruse to get you to react and spill the beans.

I’d be a little offended, because she hasn’t respected your wishes. I like CocoLoco523: ‘s reply, but your SO’s is good too. Whatever you do, don’t confirm or deny her guess.

Post # 13
5948 posts
Bee Keeper

I wouldn’t be offended, I would be pissed.  She’s clearly ignoring your wishes and being nosy.  For me, that’s annoying not offending.  She sounds like a child.

Post # 14
11747 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I wouldn’t put much time being upset about someone who isn’t a part of my life. While I understand why you want to keep the sex a secret, I do think it’s a bit odd to go around telling people you know but aren’t sharing. Why not just say you aren’t finding out?

Post # 15
556 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

She was probably only guessing to get you to react and guessed correctly. My sister in law is pregnant and she and my brother knew what the baby was but wanted to keep it a secret for a bit for a gender reveal party. I knew my brother wouldn’t tell me but I would say stuff like “I’m sure she’ll be beautiful” and what not to try to trip him up into using a pronoun with the gender or giggle in a revealing way. Yes, my 6’4″ brother giggles when talking about his baby. I really thought they were having a girl. Nope. I misread the giggles. What I thought was a “she’s onto us” giggle was a “ha ha, we have her fooled” giggle. 

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