Post # 1
As some of you may know from my previous post, my aunt and her family unexpectedly canceled at the last minute. My wedding is in 4 days, and she’s left me with 4 empty chairs and 4 meals that I’ve already paid for. I have a neighbor who is always friendly when I see her. She likes to ask about the wedding and seems genuinely happy that I’m getting married. I didn’t invite her to the wedding, because I was trying to keep my numbers down. She knows when my wedding is, and I’m pretty sure she’s not doing anything this weekend. Would it be rude if I told her I had an unexpected cancelation and asked her if she would like to come?
Post # 3
I’ll let other bees answer as to the etiquette, but I have to say I would feel sheepish to do something like that because of how the invitation would come out sounding to her.
Post # 4
nope. just explain it to her. I would feel happy that you were thinking of me if I was her
Post # 5
No, I think it’s fine. I would be honored to be thought of as a ‘replacement guest’. Just don’t be upset if she can’t make it since it’s not a lot of notice.
Post # 6
I think you’d have to know her to make that call. Would she be one of those “How sweet! I’d love to!” or one of those “I can’t believe she D-listed me because it was convenient and she needs me.” Hard to say!
Post # 7
I don’t think it’s rude, so long as you are upfront about the cancellation.
It sort of depends on the personal relationship that you have with the person and the relative tolerance of that person, but if it were me and it was a basic acquaintance I was talking to, I’d be honored to be invited. And I’m pretty sure that most people would be understanding and excited, rather than annoyed.
Post # 8
im not sure what the etiquette is. i know i personally wouldnt be offended. just make sure you really clarify that she should not bring a gift.
if she comes, im sure she will anyway, but you should be clear that that isnt a reason youre fillng the seat
Post # 9
- Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA
I’m sure there are some “rules” about these kinds of situations– but she’s your friend and neighbor, just explain exactly what you said here. You were trying to keep the numbers within reason (something almost ANYONE can relate to!) but you’ve had a cancellation, and would love if she could join you.
I think that says enough for itself.
Post # 10
I think it will be fine! I wouldn’t be offended. 😉
Post # 11
I wouldn’t be offended at all! Just explain the situation. If she can come, great, if not, oh well! Hell, I’ve BEEN the last minute invitee and was totally fine with it. A former coworker had some cancellations and she’d already prepaid, so she invited a few of us from work that she was closer with.
Post # 12
If it were all explained to me, I’d probably feel pretty great about the invite.
Post # 13
I think if you explained it the way you did here, I’d be glad to accept the invite.
Post # 14
Sounds like she is a sweet, understanding person who generally cares about things going on in your life. In that case, invite her!
Post # 15
Maybe just word it to her in the same way you put it out to us. I certainly wouldn’t be offended 🙂
Post # 16
Go for it. I’d love to receive an invite like that If I were her.