(Closed) Would you be offended by this comment?

posted 7 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 3
1654 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

@pokie45:  Taken out of context, it looks rude, but if there was no context to begin with, then wow that’s definitely rude. However, if there were previous comments and that tied into one of the comments, it wouldn’t really be that offensive.

Post # 4
78 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Not really, if the kids both look like the dad.

Post # 5
595 posts
Busy bee

It may seem offensive to others, but if you were in your friends shoes this could have been a close friend or relative joking around which could be totally acceptable to your friend, as opposed to some “acquaintance” who made the comment which seemed kinda rude.

Would I be offended if someone said this to me? If they were a close friend or family member, no. If they were someone I didn’t really have that joking around relationship with than yes kinda rude.

Post # 6
734 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Hmm… yeah.. I wouldn’t be offended. If it was a friend or close acquantiance I would be like “ha! yeah, because they both look like DH”.

If it was a random person I didn’t know I would be like… “huh??” but not necessarily offended. =P

Post # 7
6354 posts
Bee Keeper

It’s a weird comment. I guess it depends who it was and how they generally acted toward me.

Post # 8
4272 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

No, not really.

Post # 9
7639 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@pokie45:  Absolutely yes! In fact I’ve been there and it’s hurtful. It’s all very well to say one feature makes her look like DH, but to be told I don’t look like her at all isn’t a nice feeling.

Post # 10
1176 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I laughed when I read it. It’s something I would say to certain people. It totally depends on the relationship.

The other thing I’d say is – this comment wasn’t made to you, and it wasn’t made about you. So, and I mean this nicely, it’s kind of not your business, unless the mom or dad makes it your business.

Post # 11
270 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I say it to my brother on law. Both my nephews look exactly my sister and our side of the family. Luckily he sees the funny side, which is how I would think most people would take the joke. 

Post # 12
3371 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

It’s kind of abrasive, as an outsider. But if it’s like a running joke that her first child is a mini-me of her husb, then I probably wouldn’t find it so bad.

Post # 13
1784 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Hard to say without context.  If someone said it to me, it would probably bother me, but Fiance and I are an interracial couple and our kids will probably look more like him.  So the offense level totally depends on the situation.

Post # 14
144 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

it really depends on what kind of relationship they have with the family, if they are close I wouldn’t be offended but if they were just a random person then yes that would be offensive

Post # 15
624 posts
Busy bee

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@geekspice:  I totally agree!  OP I don’t mean this in a nasty way but if this is all you have to worry about then you are a lucky lady!  People on FB write as they would talk and when it is then read by someone else it can lose the humour/understanding that the original comment had.

Post # 16
2142 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I would understand that it’s meant as a joke.

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