Post # 1
A couple I know just had a baby today. He looks just like the father as does their first child. The mother posted a picture on FB and someone commented with, “Well maybe some day you’ll actually have a baby that looks like you.”
I found that comment to be rude and insensitive, and I’m not usually easily offended. Would it offend you?
Post # 3
@pokie45: Taken out of context, it looks rude, but if there was no context to begin with, then wow that’s definitely rude. However, if there were previous comments and that tied into one of the comments, it wouldn’t really be that offensive.
Post # 4
Not really, if the kids both look like the dad.
Post # 5
It may seem offensive to others, but if you were in your friends shoes this could have been a close friend or relative joking around which could be totally acceptable to your friend, as opposed to some “acquaintance” who made the comment which seemed kinda rude.
Would I be offended if someone said this to me? If they were a close friend or family member, no. If they were someone I didn’t really have that joking around relationship with than yes kinda rude.
Post # 6
Hmm… yeah.. I wouldn’t be offended. If it was a friend or close acquantiance I would be like “ha! yeah, because they both look like DH”.
If it was a random person I didn’t know I would be like… “huh??” but not necessarily offended. =P
Post # 7
It’s a weird comment. I guess it depends who it was and how they generally acted toward me.
Post # 9
@pokie45: Absolutely yes! In fact I’ve been there and it’s hurtful. It’s all very well to say one feature makes her look like DH, but to be told I don’t look like her at all isn’t a nice feeling.
Post # 10
I laughed when I read it. It’s something I would say to certain people. It totally depends on the relationship.
The other thing I’d say is – this comment wasn’t made to you, and it wasn’t made about you. So, and I mean this nicely, it’s kind of not your business, unless the mom or dad makes it your business.
Post # 11
I say it to my brother on law. Both my nephews look exactly my sister and our side of the family. Luckily he sees the funny side, which is how I would think most people would take the joke.
Post # 12
It’s kind of abrasive, as an outsider. But if it’s like a running joke that her first child is a mini-me of her husb, then I probably wouldn’t find it so bad.
Post # 13
Hard to say without context. If someone said it to me, it would probably bother me, but Fiance and I are an interracial couple and our kids will probably look more like him. So the offense level totally depends on the situation.
Post # 14
it really depends on what kind of relationship they have with the family, if they are close I wouldn’t be offended but if they were just a random person then yes that would be offensive
Post # 15
I totally agree! OP I don’t mean this in a nasty way but if this is all you have to worry about then you are a lucky lady! People on FB write as they would talk and when it is then read by someone else it can lose the humour/understanding that the original comment had.
Post # 16
I would understand that it’s meant as a joke.