- 6 years ago
- Wedding: August 2012
You were a B-list invite?
You were a B-list invite?
Nope, but I wouldn’t want to know.
I would hope I would never know this, but I wouldn’t really care….I would just hope it was because they were hoping to not go over a #, and then realized they weren’t…
Future Sister-In-Law is doing A/B list…I am not…We are inviting who we wish knowing that not everyone can come, so we should be OK.
Hmm…maybe. Depends on the circumstances. If you’re having a more intimate wedding and have limited space, then no. If we’re really close friends or something, then yeah.
Yes. I know my opinion is not a popular one here because so many brides think it’s convenient and want to do it, but I find having A/B lists to be super rude.
I would be offended if someone told me I was a B lister. If I didn’t know, there would be nothing to be offended about. I was invited to a wedding for a girl who used to be my BFF basically right before the wedding. I knew I was a b or possibly C lister, and I didn’t care. I went and had a great time.
No. Not at all. I’m human enough to realize that we’re not all ballers rolling in dough who can throw giant parties where everyone and their uncle can be invited so as not to offend anyone. I get it. You had to invite Aunt Milly because she’s family and that took the last seat. It’s fine – life goes on. So you invited me because she cancelled? Great! I’m glad you thought of me.
Not if I didn’t know. If I got the invitation less than 1 month before I would know.
No because I understand that some times you have to choose family over friends especially if on a tight budget. I just think that there’s always going to be those ‘obligitory invites’
uh yeah. I’m not good enough to make the original cut – but you’ll consider me if you need a seat filler so your reception doesn’t look empty?
Depends on how I feel about the relationship with the couple. If I thought we were close, obviously yes… if I see them as more of a good aquaintance/friend of convience, then no.
Only if I was a B-list for my best friend or sister or something. I personally think there’s nothing wrong with A/B list as long as it’s not obvious. I have close friends that I damn well better be standing next to in ugly taffeta when they say their vows, but I have many lovely acquaintances who also have many lovely acquaintances.
If a venue holds 100 people, and you have 80 family members and 20 good friends, I don’t see why it would be bad to give a spot to a coworker or an old sorority sister if your great aunt and uncle can’t make it down from Springfield. If those people are realistic about the level of your relationship, they’ll realize that while you’d like to have had everyone you had positive feelings about attend, space and money are issues. They shoulod be grateful for the invite…and if they aren’t (whether because they saw your friendship differently than you did, they’re narcissists or whatever) they can always respectfully decline. It doesn;t make sense to have a half-empty hall.
Personally I would, I wouldn’t want to go to a wedding as a seat filler because other people said no.
ETA: You should add a poll 🙂
I wouldn’t mind. I understand that it’s hard to include everyone and we all don’t have gobs of $$ to be able to afford a 300 person wedding.
If you are a B lister, that means that they want you at your wedding. I’m not sure why that’s offensive. I think as brides we’ve all faced having to cut out people we’d like to include. I can’t blame anyone for excluding me due to numbers.
When we found we had unexpected space, we made personal phone calls to those we were hoping to add. We explained that we had serious number issues and really wanted them to be apart of the day all along. We also profusely apologized for the late invite. They all gracefully accepted, came to the wedding and had a blast.
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