Post # 1
Okay, so over the past few months, me and fi, along with my parents, my brother & his fiance, have been trying a new bottle of wine with every pasta meal we have [serving pasta at our wedding].
Now, we’ve tried ALL kinds, from dry, to sweet – from cheap to expensive.
As it turns out, each of us HATE wine. Seriously, it’s gross and I’m not sure how people can drink it! Not to mention, most of us can’t keep a straight face when drinking it because it’s awful.
Would it be weird to NOT have wine? Or maybe just have a few bottles at the bar for people who want it? [There will also be champagne available at the bar, as we need it for one of our signature drinks].
We have already purchased the wine buckets, so we thought we could put some sparkling cider or welches sparkling grape on each table.
Post # 3
Pretty sure most people are going to tell you to have some.
It wouldnt bother me though.
Post # 4
Offended is a strong word but I would wish you offered some wine. Even if it’s not your taste, as long as you don’t have some reason to oppose serving wine (budget, moral reasons) I would put some at the bar.
Post # 5
I had a dry wedding. People got over it.
Post # 6
Provided that the bar didn’t make me pay for iced water, then no, I wouldn’t be offended. I’d be very mildly disappointed because I do enjoy a glass of wine with dinner, but it definitely wouldn’t offend me.
Post # 7
@allyfally: Yeah, I guess the poll could be super biased though.. because it seems like people either love wine, or hate it!
@AlwaysSunny: Putting it at the bar is no problem at all, I don’t mind having it, I just don’t want to set it at the table if most of my guests won’t drink it [basically, my whole head table won’t touch the stuff… and I don’t think giving the head table something else like the sparkling cider would look right?]
@Hyperventilate: Our wedding will be far from dry… – plenty of alcohol to go around. I just don’t want alot of wine to go wasted because half my guests don’t drink it – or be stuck with tons of it that I won’t drink.
Post # 8
@JulietFoxtrot: Thanks for your responde!
Open bar so nothing to be worried about there.
Basically, I’d like there to be cider/sparkling grape on every table, as well as a pitcher of ice water. There will also be sweet tea & lemon tea, coffee [reg & decaf], and soda available.
And then the open bar will open after dinner.
Post # 9
I probably wouldn’t even notice, to be honest. With so many drink choices plus a bar, you’re being very generous anyway, no need to spend money on wine you’ll be stuck with.
Post # 10
I wouldn’t be offended, but I would be disappointed.
You don’t have to drink wine even if you serve it. It sounds to me that the only reason you wouldn’t have wine is that you don’t like it, so there is no reason to not to serve it to your guests. I hate beer and my husband hates wine, we served both at our wedding. I didn’t drink beer, he didn’t drink wine, guests drank whatever they wanted, everybody was happy.
Post # 11
@Alsace: I’m more concerned with the fact that I may be stuck with lots of wine that I wouldn’t even drink. And all of our wine will be purchased far in advance, so probably wouldn’t be able to return the unused amount.
And the fact that my entire head table won’t drink it.. which means we’d either have nothing at our table to toast with.. or we’ve have something else than all the other tables, which I don’t feel is right.
There are plenty of things we are offering that myself or fi doesn’t particularly like [drink wise] but we are offering anyway.
Post # 12
@tsc: You said exactly what I was thinking.
I’m just not sure how many people ACTUALLY go out of their way to look for wine.. or if they’d just shrug it off and find something else to drink.
Post # 13
@jenilynevette: I wouldn’t be offended, but definitely would appreciate a glass of wine with dinner. Maybe just put a couple of bottles out per table? Most people do drink wine so I imagine with such a small amount you won’t have lots left over. If you do have any left over, you can bring them as gifts when you go to people’s houses for dinner, or do a lot of cooking involving wine!
Post # 14
@jenilynevette: “I’m just not sure how many people ACTUALLY go out of their way to look for wine”
I would probably wander up to the bar to see if it were possible to get a glass of dry red wine, as most of the other drinks sound quite sweet (cider, sparkling grape, sweet tea, iced tea), however if it weren’t available then I would just shrug it off and stick to the water. I wouldn’t think badly of you for not providing wine, and I’m probably in the minority for not liking sugary drinks. I’m sure most people will be very happy with what you’re planning to offer.
Post # 15
It wouldn’t bother me, since I hate wine, but you should probably have some at the bar or a bottle at each table since its something that most people would want.
Post # 16
Being that I’m not paying for your wedding, have exactly what you want at your event. Alcohol or no alcohol doesn’t annoy me enough to complain about it.