(Closed) Would you be offended if…

posted 12 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Would you be offended?

    Yes- a necklace, a bracelet, and a bookmark?

    No- I would love it, and totally appreciate the sentiment.

    Other- I'll explain below

  • Post # 33
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    I would just make sure you write a note and explain your choices! 

    Post # 34
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    511 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    Awesome!  Personalized (in thought, not just engraved) gifts like that are the best!  Great idea.

    Post # 35
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    Ok, I wouldn’t be offended but I need to throw something out there: when you gift the other girls jewelry and they wear it day of, you’re 110% sure she won’t be upset that she didn’t get anything?

    I like the sentiment a lot, but really, if she even sometimes wears jewelry she might kind of feel shorted when everyone else is wearing something from the bride at the wedding.

    Post # 37
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    Bumble bee

    Outwardly, it seems perfect.  But one question, why doesn’t she wear jewelry?  If you know she doesn’t like to, or it irritates her skin, then the bookmark is perfect, (especiallly since you were careful to spend equally on them).  But if you aren’t sure why she doesn’t wear jewelry, you might be assuming she doens’t like it, when in fact she does.  In that case I think it might not sit well with her.

    I say that because, I often don’t wear jewelry.  But it’s not that I don’t like it.  I just, well, don’t have many places to go.  And since I stay at home, I don’t bother wearing jewelry that might get torn off by one of my kids or slip off my hand while cleaning the toilet or something.  So if someone looked at me and thought “she doesn’t wear jewelry, so I won’t get her that, but I bet she’d love a nice diaper bag….” I would be upset because I personally think jewelry is a nicer gift.

    Post # 38
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2010 - Philippe Park

    After reading your description, it sounds like a perfect gift for her! It’s not like you’re giving the other girls Tiffany’s jewelry and giving her a regular old bookmark, she’s getting Tiffany’s too! I think it’s a really cute, sweet, and thoughtful gift!

    Post # 39
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Great idea!!  I didn’t know they did that actually (and we’re havign a book themed wedding!).  Somehitng to look into 🙂

    Post # 40
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2009

    Given that you exchange books together, I think it’s perfect. It’s a nice meaningful gift. Kudos!

    Post # 41
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    75 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: October 2009

    Great idea! A. Anything from Tiffany’s is fabulous. B. You really thought about who the girls are and got them something that represented them which is really touching. 

    Post # 42
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I said I would be offended, but I want to explain why.

    It entirely depends on the girl and I am sure you know her well enough to decide.  Personally, I don’t like stores like Tiffany’s – I don’t like when the cost goes up just because there’s a designer name on it.  So if I received a bookmark from Tiffany’s, I would not like it.  But that is just me, and your friend could feel entirely differently.

    Also, I find that when I read, a gum wrapper or old receipt is my favorite bookmark because it’s okay if I lose them!  If she’s an avid reader, she probably takes her books with her everywhere, making it more likely for her to lose a treasured item.

    What if you get each girl jewelry, plus a little something inexpensive, but has sentimental value?  That way you could still get her a nice book mark, maybe one with a cute saying about friendship or something.  I’m sure you could think of similar ideas for the other two girls.

    Post # 43
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    1300 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    i would have prefered a bookmark to some of the things i have gotten for bridesmaids gifts – usually jewelry – including CZ earrings with posts (my ears are UNpierced – HELLO PEOPLE!!!!) or jewelry i will never wear again.

     

    Post # 44
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2009

    I actually received a nice silver frog bookmark for a bridesmaid gift when I was in my brother’s wedding. I loved it, because it suited me; I adore frogs. I rarely wear jewelry and my sister-in-law recognized that, so she trusted my brother’s instinct that a bookmark would be a better idea. I definitely did not think that I got a worse gift that any of the other bridesmaids.

    Post # 45
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: January 2012

    I think thats an incredibly thoughtful, practical gift! I think you’re doing the right thing here 🙂 I’m sure she’ll love it!

    Hey, I once got a thong that said “Bridesmaid” on it. So I mean, you could do worse than a fabulous Tiffany bookmark! 🙂

    Post # 46
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    Helper bee

    I think gifts that symbolize an aspect of your friendship are the best!  So great that you tied it to something you love to do together (exchanging books). 

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