Post # 13
I don’t think you should put your mom in that position. I think you or your fiance needs to talk to her and say that it’s not formal enough. You’ve got a long relationship ahead of you, so you don’t want to start it off by feeling pissed about her outfit (which is so bad, btw.) Seriously, she cannot wear that to her son’s wedding, and you guys should just bite the bullet and tell her that!
Post # 14
@misskarianne: That’s a good idea! Thanks!
Post # 15
@toshella: Another great idea! This is why I love WB! So much support and so many helpful suggestions!
Post # 15
I think that you have a good attitude about this. I would be very annoyed too (not because it’s white, but because her whole attitude seems disrespectful).
I had people show up to our wedding in everything from tuxes to a jean suit. Yes, people commented, but it didn’t impact me at all. My only real issue was that I was blamed by one of the people for their attire because I didn’t tell them about the formality…which is bs. They were sent pictures of my dress, the venue, and the dress code (for the restaurant). Totally not my problem. Wear what you want, but don’t blame me when you look like an ass.
Don’t worry about this “reflecting on your FI”. I really don’t think that people will blame him for his mom’s clothes. She will look silly, but that’s on her. As long as you’ve given her the heads up about formality, this is her problem.
Post # 16
Seriously. . .what is she thinking. If she decides to wear it, there will be no way in hell she will upstage you or anybody else for that matter. She will be the one who looks foolish. Guests always look to see what the Mother of the Bride and Groom are wearing. I wouldn’t be surprised if people made comments to her about it. I would be more disappointed than upset, because it’s a reflection on her, and kind of a slap in the face to you and your Fiance.
Post # 17
@jeanie13: I’m not much help b/c I’m in the same exact position as you. My Future Mother-In-Law is wearing a black jersey sundress that she has converted into a long skirt (on clearance at Marshalls) and a paisley turquoise, black and brown cardigan with sewn-in tanktop on sale to our very formal evening wedding. I feel bad b/c she is going to look soo underdressed at our wedding, but Fiance knows it’s a battle not worth fighting. Just wanted to let you know you’re not alone!!!
Post # 18
I agree with SandyThePoet’s idea. Maybe she just isn’t a good shopper or doesn’t have anyone to go with her.
Post # 19
I have a different opinion..i think she looks nice. If it’s ironed and she put on some jewelry to go with the outfit. I think it’s simple and sophisticated (the butterfly sucks..but if she likes they..then power to her..i can’t tell from looking at the picture). She pulls off that white suit way better than anyone I can know..so you can look at it that way if she is set on wearing that. 🙂
Post # 20
The way I look at it, the outfit worn by FMIL doesnt reflect badly on your or even your Fiance. It only reflects badly on her, so if she wants to wear something weird I would just ignore her. Personally I’m only worried about the BMs, GMs etc.. but Future In-Laws can wear anything they feel like
Post # 21
I’d let her wear it and look like an idiot.
Post # 22
Yeah, my husband’s mother wore a white dress with gold embellishments. I was so pissed, but I laughed when my friend’s came up and were making fun of her. Honestly, it really doesn’t matter, and I agree its only going to reflect negatively on her. Try shopping with her, but if it doesn’t work, don’t sweat it
Post # 23
That outfit is godawful. I’m tempted to say “Oh yeah let her wear it because it won’t reflect poorly on you” but do you really want to have family pictures taken with her in THAT outfit? It looks like she picked it out of some 90-year old woman’s dumpster. Yuck. I’d say “Wear that outfit and you’re being excluded from pictures” haha but not really. Your fiance needs to talk to her….
Post # 24
Wow your Future Mother-In-Law seems immature. Yes, I would be bothered. But in the end, she will look like the fool! You dont have to display any pictures of her in your house and can put as few as you want in your wedding album. THe attention will still be on you and how beautiful you are. Unfortunately, I think its a battle worth losing
Post # 25
That is…not a pant suit. The cut of the jacket and the 3/4 length sleeves are way too casual. I would definitely try and take her out shopping. If that’s a flop, well, she’ll get some odd looks at the wedding, that’s for sure.
Post # 26
I agree with the previous posters that it is way too casual for a wedding, especially the one you’ve described. I also agree with PitBullLover however in that is a battle worth losing in order for you to keep your sanity. I wish you luck… my Mother-In-Law is also tasteless so we can paddle this boat together!