(Closed) Would you be ok with FMIL wearing this to your wedding? I’m trying to be…

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Would you be ok with FMIL wearing this to your wedding?
    Yes, it's fine : (57 votes)
    21 %
    No, it's inappropriate : (220 votes)
    79 %
  • Post # 27
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    It being White isn’t the issue that I can see. It’s that the outfit is way too casual and I’m doubting she plans on adding jewelery and rocking nice heels with it to dress it up from the sounds of her. So, I’d be having someone take her shopping and just tell her enough is enough.

    Post # 28
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I agree that her whole attitude seems disrespectful. When you said “white pants suit” I had something completely different in mind. It’s VERY casual….and there are butterflies on it…I mean it’s just not something you wear to a wedding, especially your son’s wedding. It sounds like your mother has attempted to step in and it hasn’t gone very well. Aside from talking to your Future Mother-In-Law about it, I’m not sure what else you can do. At least it isn’t black jeans?

    Post # 29
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    Bumble bee

    I would kill her. No way in heck would I let that happen. Noooooo!

    Post # 31
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    1211 posts
    Bumble bee

    I just came back because I felt the very strong need to say “no” again.

    Post # 32
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    37 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I wouldn’t worry about it too much. It is an ugly suit. 🙂 No one is going to take their eyes off of you to notice her

    Post # 34
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    1. It’s frumpy, even if it is wrinkled because she just picked it out…

    2. It’s white…

    3. Is that a ratty old t-shirt underneath?

    4. It’s way too informal for your occasion.

    5. It’s not attractive at all!

    No way would I be okay with that.

    Have your FH handle it with her. What a weirdo.

    Post # 35
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    She looks like those little old ladies you see at the casino!  I’d be offended that she doesn’t seem to care about looking nice for your big day, but in the end, she’s the one that looks like an idiot being underdressed and all. 

    Post # 36
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    1701 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    Ummm…no I wouldn’t be OK with it.  But if that’s what she pictures herself wearing for her son’s wedding, so be it.  My friend’s former Mother-In-Law wore a short, turqoise, beaded dress with a heart-shaped cut out in the back.  The wedding was at 2pm, semi-formal.  It was a very popular look for prom that year…

    I agree with the PP that she is being very immature.  I think this is a passive-aggressive way to get attention.  She knows damn well this isn’t appropriate.  Ignore it.

    However, I would instruct the photographer that she is only to be in the family pictures on her side.  No other photographs of her.

    Post # 37
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    1092 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    What’s that saying? “Hell to the NO!!!”

    Post # 38
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    I would not be bothered so much that it’s a white pantsuit. I would be more bothered by the fact that it looks like something an older woman would wear on a church bus tour to Las Vegas or something.

    Post # 39
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    No, it’s WAY too casual. That’s something my Future Mother-In-Law would wear to the mall shopping not to a wedding. 

    Post # 41
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I definitely wouldn’t be okay with it, but SHE’s the one who is going to look out of place.

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