(Closed) Would you be ok with FMIL wearing this to your wedding? I’m trying to be…

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Would you be ok with FMIL wearing this to your wedding?
    Yes, it's fine : (57 votes)
    21 %
    No, it's inappropriate : (220 votes)
    79 %
  • Post # 72
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2013

    I hope everything turns out well! It sounds like yall have her going in the right direction, she just needs a little more push!

    Post # 73
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Hahaha maybe you should just say to her, “I want you to dress up.”  Seems like that’s what she’s expecting!

    It’s good that she’s willing to go shopping though; whatever it takes.

    Post # 74
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    Blushing bee

    No, no, no.

    NO ONE but the bride (or groom) wears white.  Period.

    Future Mother-In-Law is supposed to be wearing the same type attire as the MOB (unless the bride and MOB approve otherwise).

    Pantsuit? NO

    White?  NO

    Looks more like something you’d wear to work.

    Post # 75
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    Ugh she sounds like such a pain in the ass.

    Post # 76
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    I guess I am an oddball here; I would let her wear it. She is an adult and can pick out her clothes, and if that is what she chooses to wear, that is up to her.

    Heck, she can wear it to my wedding, which the theme is butterflies…

     

    The Butterfly is a universal symbol of change, resurrection, transformation, celebration, young love and the soul.

    ~ As a symbol of transformation; the butterfly represents everlasting life, stemming from it’s various stages of life.
    1. Birth (the caterpillar),
    2. Death (the chrysalis), and finally,
    3. Resurrection (the butterfly).

    ~ In some myths, the Butterfly brings sleep and dreams. In others, it is symbolic of female fertility and is thought to be the bringer of children. The butterfly also represents love and relationships.

     

     

    Post # 77
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I think it’s fine, really. Your bridal hormones are in overdrive.

    Believe me I know the feeling. My SIL (my FI’s sis-in-law) is coming dressed business casual for our 100% formal wedding! She is wearing a dark brown business pant-suit. Even though I am more than willing to let her borrow whatever she wants from me. Plus my Mother-In-Law (however annoying she is) also gave a few of her her gowns to my SIL.

    At first it was bothering me given how embarassed my Fiance will be. But then I got over it knowing that she will be the one embarassed when everyone else around her is dressed glamourously. And the cherry on top is that her hubby who will be my FI’s bestman refused to walk down the aisle with her because he says “she won’t look good.” OMG! Your Father-In-Law could be thinking just that. And that’s just the beginning of your MIL’s embarassing journey! Laughing

    Post # 78
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I think it’s fine, really. Your bridal hormones are in overdrive.

    Believe me I know the feeling. My SIL (my FI’s sis-in-law) is coming dressed business casual for our 100% formal wedding! She is wearing a dark brown business pant-suit. Even though I am more than willing to let her borrow whatever she wants from me. Plus my Mother-In-Law (however annoying she is) also gave a few of her her gowns to my SIL.

    At first it was bothering me given how embarassed my Fiance will be. But then I got over it knowing that she will be the one embarassed when everyone else around her is dressed glamourously. And the cherry on top is that her hubby who will be my FI’s bestman refused to walk down the aisle with her because he says “she won’t look good.” OMG! Your Father-In-Law could be thinking just that. And that’s just the beginning of your MIL’s embarassing journey! Laughing

    Post # 79
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I’ve had the same exact problems with my mother when it comes to wardrobe, though I know she can’t exactly afford to buy a $100+ gown. And her date wants to wear jeans. I’m not super stoked about it, but if that’s how they want to be, then what can I really do?

    Post # 80
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2012

    the real question here is- where can i get that outfit??

    Post # 81
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    @clover32512: I agree with you.  She is an adult and if she’s happy wearing that and seeing it in pictures for the rest of her life, then ok.

    Post # 82
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    I agree with the poster who said to inlist your mom – or other older femail relative.  My Future Mother-In-Law was going to wear all black – like not even new black – but a faded old pants and sweater set.  Ugh.  My mom said that she would take her shopping and although she was pretty much against it, she ended up enjoying it.  And now she has a beautiful outfit for the shower and another one for the wedding.  Our wedding is at 7:00, and very formal…so it wasn’t the easiest thing to get her in a skirt…so we found some very loose sparkly pants that we all love!  Give it a try! 🙂

    Post # 83
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Waiting for the update on this!!!!  Can’t wait to see how the saga is going!

    Post # 84
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: November 2011

    Yes this would bother me, But in the end I would let her wear it because she is going to be the one to look stupid.

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