Would you be ok with no engagement ring at all (no ring at proposal or later)?

posted 2 months ago in The Lounge
  • poll: No engagement ring at all?
    I prefer not to have an engagement ring : (3 votes)
    3 %
    I don't mind either way : (29 votes)
    32 %
    I definitely want an engagement ring : (56 votes)
    61 %
    Other (mention in comments) : (4 votes)
    4 %
  • Post # 18
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    393 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    I got an engagement ring, and I love it. But I would have been fine with a nice wedding band and maybe adding stacking bands for anniversaries or something. 

    Post # 19
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    541 posts
    Busy bee

    I told my husband of he insisted on getting me an engagement ring I wouldn’t be the right one for him—- I’m not into supporting a stupid marketing trick by buying an object with no resale value. I’d rather go on an awesome trip, fund part of college for a future child, put money on retirement and so on. 

     

    Thankfully, he was the right one for me!

    Post # 20
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    2130 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2017

    I insisted on an engagement ring. It was important to me. However, I have no judgement for someone who doesn’t want one. 

    Post # 21
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    639 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2020

    No. I’d rather have a sterling silver and CZ ring that I bought myself than no ring at all. No shame. 

    Post # 22
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    1279 posts
    Bumble bee

    I have questions about this scenario. If the bride and or groom to be wanted an engagement ring would they be “allowed” to get one? I would have an issue if I wanted something and then my partner would stop me from getting it (assuming price is within reason). To me on this scenario it sounds like they have agreed no rings. So it’s a personal decision so why not.

    Is there a wedding ring coming? I know quite a few couples who never wanted an engagement ring but only got the wedding ring. A lot of people here dont wear them all the time and rings are not considered a big deal at all. 

    But yea, if like to have an engagement ring and wedding ring. Propably wouldn’t wear then daily but it would be nice for special occasions. Here men also wear engagement rings traditionally. But I dont need to have my partner buy then for me. I can get them myself. My mom.buya a new ring whenever she finds one she likes and wears it on her ring finger

    Post # 23
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    229 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2020

    at the end of the day a ring is essentually a dowry and I dont like that, I do love rings though so we came to the opposit compromise where we BOTH got an engagement ring but I can see it being fine the other way to where nobody gets one. Some people dont even like rings or cant wear them for work, I never noticed my Father-In-Law didnt wear a wedding ring until Mother-In-Law pointed it out, apparently he got one for show for the wedding then she pawned it and bought jewellery because he hated wearing rings.

    Post # 24
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    1974 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2018

    I have an heirloom engagement ring which has been in the family 160 years. It’s so precious that I just wear my band.

    Post # 25
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    2229 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2018

    We had a short engagement and eloped, so I didn’t have an engagement ring (my choice – hubby would have gotten one if I really wanted). I have a blingy wedding ring and I love it!

    Post # 26
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    471 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2019

    I voted “I could go either way”. I have an engagement ring (which I love!) thanks to inheriting a family diamond. Even with my now-husband getting a pretty new setting for it, it was very affordable. I don’t think I would have been comfortable with him shelling out $4K+ for a brand new diamond ring, and I wasn’t especially interested in simulants or any other gemstones (except for sapphires, but a good natural sapphire still isn’t cheap). So, if we hadn’t inherited the diamond, I would have preferred no ring and a really nice trip. Plus, like I said in your last thread, as a hippie/radical feminist, I think there’s something really endearing about couples who mutually decide to get married and just go for bands at the wedding ceremony.

    Post # 27
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    4057 posts
    Honey bee

    I have to say I’d want an engagement ring. If money is an issue I’d be glad to contribute to the cost. What can I say? I like rings.

    Post # 28
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    2513 posts
    Sugar bee

    My situation is a little different because I do wear a ring and was proposed to with a ring — but it’s a ring from my side of the family, that was already in my possession. Dh and I discussed it and I let him know I would be happy with that ring, or a ring of his choice. He proposed with the family ring. He did not buy me an engagement ring, and he’s never given me expensive jewelry to date, so some might see that as “cheapness” or thoughtlessness. I saw it as practical since I already had a diamond ring I liked, and I’ve always liked vintage things. 

    Post # 29
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    224 posts
    Helper bee

    I guess it depends on the situation. Like Sunburn said, if it were money issues, I’d split the cost. (I mean I did design my own ring and this is a partnership). Is this just about engagement rings or wedding bands too?

    But yes I would be disappointed. I wanted an engagement ring mainly because I just want one. I love the bling, Iove the symbolism and I must admit, because of social pressures of living in the bible belt and being a medical student. I wear my rings in clinic but not at the hospital and everyday that I was at the VA hospital besides the patients assuming that I was a nurse, I would regularly hear “honey why isn’t there a ring on your finger?” And a lot of unwanted comments. I got so sick of having to explain, that I started wearing silicone bands so I could actually do my job. I don’t look down on people who choose not to though. It’s all personal preference. Different strokes for different folks. 

    Post # 30
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    442 posts
    Helper bee

    My personal preference would be to have an engagement ring, but ultimately it’s not a big deal. My parents were married for over 30 years (until my father passed away) and never had an engagement ring – not at the proposal or later, not ever. Of course I understand the social pressure of having a ring, but ultimately it has nothing to do with the strength of the marriage itself.

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