Post # 1
Fiance has been looking for a job in scaffolding/oil rigs, and he has a friend who is in scaffolding who told him months back that he would find him a job but still hasnt been able too. I am good friends with his wife, so she told me that he would try to find my Fiance a job soon, well I just heard that he may be going to California for 6 months, so I thought that if he takes that job, he may be able to find my Fiance a job there with him as well (his wife told me about this). I asked Fiance if he would go and he said yes so that he would be bale to pay off everything for the wedding, and save for a downpayment on a home. We dont live together yet, and we dont plan to get married until December, but Idk how I would feel not seeing him for 6 months, although hes away now and I’ve been seeing him through FaceTime thanks to our iPhones, so although it wouldnt be the same as seeing him in person, it would help a little.
My question, would you be ok with your BF/FI/DH going away for that long if you knew that he was going to come back with a big amount of money that would help you both?
Post # 3
Yep – we were long distance for 10 months and it didn’t even involve a large influx of money.
Post # 4
I would be ok with it. He is making the sacrifice to leave for 6 mos. and I think it is very admirable. Of course, I would make sure the Fiance is also doing this because he wants to not because he thinks I want him to. // My Fiance is in the military so there is a chance he may be deployed for as long as 9 mos. so I’m bracing myself for when that comes. It’ll be tough. // Good luck!
Post # 5
It wouldn’t be fun but I would deff deal with it for the $$!
Post # 6
I would be ok with it if it was guaranteed money.
Post # 8
If he wanted to then I’d support his decision. And let’s face it, financial security is a huge benefit.
Post # 9
It would stink, but the money would be well worth it if it was enough to help us get started!
Post # 10
We’ve never done the long distance thing and I hope we never have to but if we were in dire need of money and the only option was to be seperated for 6 months so that we could make ends meet then we’d do it. I would hate every minute of it but if it was absolutely necessary then so be it.
Post # 11
Yup. When my SO are engaged, he is spending 5 months of our enagement put of town in police college to become an OPP officer. It is worth it for us as he will be getting paid as he is there, and it he also get a great career out of it. I say that if he will be making enough money to start your lives out together then it is definitely worth it! 🙂
Post # 12
@Mrs.KMM: thanks for responding, I bet that wasnt easy to do.
@mnp: that is very true! & I dont want to be away from him that long, but he wants to so I’m going to support him if it does happen because we do need money. Good luck with your Fiance getting deployed!
@soon2beMRSgq: yeah I guess I would too.
@ohmybears48: well those jobs are always guaranteed money, so I guess I would deal with it as well.
@Scottish_lassie: got it!
@MapleMoose: yeah it sure is! It would be great to get the wedding paid off, and hopefully have enough for a downpayment on a home as well. Lets see what happens.
@Rouquine: I think him leaving for that amount of time would definitely help us get started!
@UpstateCait: the most I have been away from him have been 1 month at the most, if this is to actually happen idk how I’m going to do it to deal with it fro 6 months, but he has to do to what he thinks is best for us, and although it will hurt I will support him.
Post # 13
@WannaBeeMrsB: thats good for you guys, congrats! 🙂 & yeah I think what makes it a little easier is that we arent actually married yet, I guess in a way it doesnt feel as hard, but that money sure will help us out. I had no idea he would actually go through with it, but if it presents itself he said hes taking it.
Post # 14
I think I’d do it for 6 months before the wedding. FI and I are long distance until the wedding and it’s making me even more excited to hurry up and marry him so I can finally see him everyday!
Post # 15
@bookworm88: I like the way you put it 🙂 if it does happen then I hope I’m like you and become even more excited to marry him! Even married I wont be able to spend every day with him because of the job he wants to take, but I will get to see him more often.
Post # 16
No, I can’t imagine being without him that long, it would kill me, and, honestly, the money wouldn’t matter to me. But I admire all the strong ladies who could do it. I’ve never been in a long-distance relationship of any kind, though.