(Closed) Would you be ok with your SO doing this?

posted 8 years ago in Career
Post # 47
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Bakersfield definitely is the place to go for anything oil field related. Because the tanks and vessels are so high up, scaffolding is a must. He can also find work being a driller, rig hand, fracking, anything really. 

Also…oilfields are dangerous. BUT safety is HUGE and you can’t work without doing all the standard S.O.P’s and JSA’s which are to make you aware of any hazards before you start your job. Most accidents occur by someone half-assing through the job or simply being lazy/negligent. So I wouldn’t really worry about that. And anything scaffold related, they are tied down (in a harness) to catch them if they fall.

The pay is great and there are a lot of overtime shifts you can pick up. You can also move up alot, which means raises.

If they do decide to come here, PM me and I can give you company names of where he can apply.

Post # 49
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7429 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

I think this is a good reason, and I would be ok with it. It would totally, unbelievably suck, but if it meant a better future, i would do it

Post # 51
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

@lioness_89:  Just keep that in your mind of how much it will help your future and how much it will help you both.  There will be moments it will suck, but there will be LOTS of benefits.  

Being in an LDR isn’t the worst thing in the world.  Losing your Fiance would be the worst thing… being apart does suck, but until the worst happens, it can always be worse.  One of my friends told me that before Darling Husband went to bootcamp, and it really put things into perspective for me.

Also, celebrate the positive things, even things you might take for granted.  Can you call him when he’s away?  Can you Facetime/Skype?  Can you send mail, visit, or send care packages? Some LDRs don’t get those privileges.  So, celebrate the positives that you do get to experience!  

Also, you will both be able to see what you have in each other.  It’s amazing how easily we can take the ones we love for granted when we see them all the time.  Separation has, for us at least, taught us how much we really mean to each other.  You don’t know what you have until it’s gone…

Post # 53
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1348 posts
Bumble bee

My SO is in a band, so when he tours he’s gone for months, but love it. Worth it.

Post # 55
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I would do it only cuz I had to deal with my Fiance being away for an entire year while he was in Afghanistan. Luckily the army has shortened their deployments to only 9 months. Sure 6 months sounds like a really long time, but it has to end eventually and it might actually make you two stronger and realize how important you are to each other. Best of luck!

Post # 57
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@lioness_89:  No problem 🙂 It’s easy to think of the negatives that come with it but sometimes you just have to think of the positives too 🙂

Post # 58
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7295 posts
Busy Beekeeper

definitely! it would suck, but worth it in the grand scheme of things.

Post # 59
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@lioness_89:  My husband (well boyfriend at the time) and I lived apart from each other for a year so I could go to school and he had a great job. It did suck because we missed each other but we did get alot accomplished when we were apart. I made fantastic grades and he was able to focus on his job. Plus we had something to look forward to when he was able to move in. 

Post # 60
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I would. Fiance did it for 2 months (I know…it’s a fraction of what you’re looking at) and it was tough but very worth it – for his career and our bank account. Plus the time I went to visit and the reunion were amaaaazing! 

Post # 61
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

i’ve never been away from my husband for more than 3-4 days.  i suppose if it was work related i would be ok with it, sad, but ok.

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